April 13, 2025 |
Sunday Morning
Proverbs 5 | Not Always As It Seems
John C. Majors |
Proverbs 5
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We’ve been studying the Book
of Proverbs,
and Proverbs is all about wisdom.
One of the things you learn when you gain
some wisdom is
sometimes things are not exactly
as they appear.
It can appear one way,
but then there’s more to it.
One of the things I like to do
personally through exercise is cycling,
biking, be out on the road.
Probably the main reason is though,
because the really cool outfits
you get to wear
when you do that kind of thing,
you know,
they look ridiculous and feel ridiculous.
I don’t know,
you thought of it,
but the crazy part is
some of that clothing
is really expensive.
It’s surprising
for such a little fabric
how much money you can spend.
So one day I was on social media
and the ad popped up
for one of the brands of clothing
that is considered one of the best,
and it was a deal
I had never seen before,
and it was too good to be true.
I forgot to jump on there
and order this while I can,
and I’m trying to order it
now clicking buy
because I’ve filled my cart
full of super dirt cheap stuff.
And then it hit me.
If something’s too good to be true,
it is.
And I’m immediately
canceling my credit card
because I got taken.
This was not legit.
It wasn’t the real company.
It wasn’t the real site. It was a scam.
Things are not always as they appear.
Hopefully as we gain wisdom, we become
more aware of that.
The same is true spiritually.
And we’re going to see in Proverbs
chapter five today.
Chapter five lands
in a string of problems.
Chapter one
through chapter nine
where you see these
repetitions of the statement my son,
my son, my son, my son.
It’s a series of instructions
from a father to his son
and to his children
in general, sons and daughters,
but in particular
in that culture to the son,
the leader of the home,
the one who’s going to pass everything on
to. Listen carefully.
I have some wisdom to give to you.
And in chapter five,
he introduces a section
that is especially keyed
in to being aware
that not everything is as it
seems,
especially when it comes
to sexual temptation.
We’ll see in chapter five
that the seductress presents herself
in a way that makes it seem
too good to be true.
She makes promises
that seem too good to be true.
But not everything is as it seems.
What we’re going to see in chapter five.
He is going to
expose the emptiness of her promises.
He’s going to reveal the hidden costs,
because how it seems is one way,
but there is a hidden cost.
Then he’s going to show him a better way.
So we’re going to look at Proverbs
chapter five. If you want to turn there.
Proverbs chapter five.
Proverbs is near the middle of the Bible.
If you have a church,
Bible it’s on page 497.
We have Bibles in the lobby for you.
Would love for you to grab
and read from and keep.
You can follow along as I read them.
Just read the first two verses
to set the stage here
for the father’s instruction to his Son.
Proverbs chapter five, verse one.
My son,
be attentive to my wisdom.
Incline your ear to my understanding
that you may keep discretion,
So before he gets into the
warning section,
he starts by just
reminding him of the importance
of listening to knowledge of God.
He uses some of the same language
we saw in chapter
four three, and to be attentive,
pay attention.
Incline your ears.
Lean in to listen for wisdom,
for what I’m about to share with you.
Be eager for knowledge and wisdom.
Don’t just take it because I have to
be hungry for wisdom.
Then he does not just remind him
that wisdom is important.
He’s going to do something here
that he hasn’t really clearly done yet,
which is to tell him
part of the purpose of this
isn’t just about himself.
He says,
be attentive to wisdom, that
you may keep discretion
and your lips,
may guard knowledge.
You don’t just seek wisdom only
for yourself,
but also for the sake of others.
What he’s referencing here in this verse,
this is a hint at a verse in Malachi.
So if you want to flip over there
real quick,
Malachi is the last book
in the Old Testament.
If you get to Matthew,
Mark, Luke and John
and you see that
flip back to Malachi chapter two,
Malachi has a lot of themes in it
that set up the New Testament.
One of them is this warning section
in Malachi chapter two, where he is
rebuking the priests
who hadn’t done
what they were supposed to do.
So if you look at Malachi
chapter two in verse seven,
the lips of a priest
should guard knowledge–
that’s that same language
here in Proverbs
five, the lips of the priest
should guard knowledge.
That’s the role of the priest,
the pastor, the Bible teacher
to care for knowledge, to communicate
in a way that values
and honors knowledge.
I’m not that teaching for myself,
but also for the good
of the whole church.
That is a weight of responsibility
we should carry careful.
And so he’s saying to the son,
part of your role you seek wisdom
not just for yourself,
but you’re carrying something,
a responsibility for others
in your life as well.
The way you act,
the way you speak, the way you live
doesn’t just affect you,
it affects everyone around.
And of course, in Malachi,
that’s the call to the priest
to guard your knowledge.
People should seek instruction
from his mouth.
He is the messenger of the Lord of hosts.
But
you have turned aside from the way.
It’s a rebuke to those who have neglected
their role.
Let’s go back to Proverbs
the father saying to the son,
don’t end up like that.
Care for knowledge,
keep wisdom, seek discretion.
Use it.
It is not just about you,
it’s about others who are around him. Now
here is where he
enters into warning him
about the empty promises
of the seductress,
and he does it by comparing his lips
to her lips.
Your lips are for guarding knowledge,
but notice how she uses her
lips – look at verse three.
The lips of a forbidden
woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil.
But in the end she is bitter
as wormwood.
Her lips.
His lips are meant to guard
knowledge, give life,
and pour out to others.
Hers are meant to seduce, to mislead,
to misdirect.
And of course this applies
to applies to female and males
who are seeking to mislead others
in this arena.
The interesting thing of the imagery
here is the use of the word honey.
You know, honey is a nice food to have.
We probably
don’t use it
as much as
they would have in this culture,
because you
you can’t just go out at this time
and buy a bag of sugar at Kroger.
If you want something sweet,
it’s going to be fruit
or dried fruit or honey.
There’s a cost to gathering honey.
It’s not easy.
You know,
we have people who do that for us.
We don’t have to risk
getting stung by bees, but
not an easy thing.
And honey is so delightful
when you have had nothing sweet.
The taste of honey on the top.
In fact,
one of my favorite snacks
is just a spoonful of peanut butter with
honey dripped on top.
I could eat that.
I think probably endlessly.
The problem with honey, though, is it
doesn’t really have
depth of nutrients.
It has great taste,
but it’s not going to sustain you
if that’s all you eat.
You won’t be around very long.
It has an emptiness
to it, an empty promise.
The taste is great,
but ultimately it’s not going to satisfy.
In fact, here
that is her temptation
to taste the honey.
It is good.
It is good for you.
It will bring satisfaction and joy.
But no,
no, in fact, look at the warning.
Her lips drip
honey, speech smoother than the oil,
but in the end she is bitter
as wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword.
You know, part of the important thing
to do in life
when you are considering
anything is to consider how it
might turn out down the road.
So many things seem great on the surface,
so many things seem so pleasant
and enjoyable and even fun.
And I mean, that’s
part of the great
allure of sin
is that it is actually can be quite fun.
But that’s not the whole story.
You have to consider what the end may be.
The book of Ecclesiastes is famous for this.
If you flip over
just a few pages
to Ecclesiastes chapter seven,
Solomon would have experienced
the great depth of pleasure in life.
And Solomon in fact, the screen,
the page number will be on the screen,
was just
Ecclesiastes
is the next book past Proverbs.
Solomon would have experienced this.
He would have known.
And in chapter seven, verse eight
he says, better is the end of a thing,
than its beginning.
Better’s the end
than its beginning,
meaning we all have started into things
and they seemed great
and didn’t finish well.
Some of our marathoners understand
that dynamic.
Many start out
vigorously in the race,
maybe sprint out ahead of you,
and then you run right
past them about the halfway mark,
and maybe they don’t
even make it to the end.
The end of a matter
is better than the beginning.
Consider where things are headed
when you enter into them,
and when you hear the
tempting of the seductress,
consider where this will end up.
Get the whole picture.
Don’t just buy into her empty promises
because the end is not sweet, honey.
It’s bitterness.
It’s wormwood.
You don’t even have to know
what kind of plant that is to know.
I don’t want any part of that
just based on the name.
Here’s what it is.
Here’s how
you can relate it in our culture,
it’s not honey, it’s antifreeze.
Antifreeze.
I’ve not tasted it,
but I’ve heard it’s sweet to the taste.
That’s why animals
sometimes will be tempted.
If you have an old car like I
may have had at times
that leaks some radiator fluid here
and there,
they will lick it up.
But it is poison.
It is sweet to the taste
but it’s poison.
It tastes great at the start
and it’s poison.
And where it ends up is verse
five and six.
Her empty promises
ultimately lead, in Proverbs five,
her feet go down to death.
Her steps follow the path to Sheol.
She does not ponder the path of life.
Her ways wander
and she doesn’t
even know it.
The path
she’s on, it does have an end
and it’s death.
Don’t be naive
if you are entering down that road,
recognize,
acknowledge where that’s headed.
It’s death.
The appearances are great.
Things are not always
as they appear.
The path is death.
Don’t go down that path.
Here is the warning.
The father here with his son
is exposing her empty promises.
She’s making great claims.
But it’s not the path
you want to go down.
It’s not going to end well.
Consider the end of a thing,
not just in the beginning.
Don’t be deceived by appearances.
Now,
he’s not just exposing her
empty promises.
Here are the claims
she makes that are great.
But he’s also going to end
this next group of verses.
Point out something else.
Not only are the claims
not what they appear to be,
but there are hidden costs
that she’s not telling you about.
You–
that’s how they get you,
right? With the hidden fees.
Anytime you sign up for something,
it’s just a dollar.
Sign up and that’ll be $100 next month.
But it’s just a dollar.
That’s all.
Those hidden fees, those hidden costs,
they don’t tell you about it on the front end.
They want to trick you into it,
and then they’ll tell you
about those later.
There are hidden costs
to going down this path,
and he’s going to warn the son of them
her. Look at verse seven.
Now son
listen to me
and do not depart
from the words of my mouth.
Keep your way far from her,
and do not go
near to the door of her house.
The warning here, first of all, is
create
great distance between yourself
and this temptation.
Don’t even get close.
Stay far away.
Don’t come up to the edge and say,
I don’t know how that happened, how I got tempted.
Well, you walked right up to her door.
What do you expect?
Stay away from the door.
Stay off the street. Stay off the town.
Keep great distance
between you and the temptation.
And look here how he continues
to encourage him. Because
what he points out here
in this next group of verses,
verse 9 to 14
are these hidden costs.
If you go down this path, there are costs
that you’re not considering now,
but you need to be aware.
And he gives us a list here
of 4 or 5 different costs to consider.
Look at verse nine.
Here’s what will happen.
You go into her house,
you give your honor to others
and your years to the merciless.
Don’t be naive.
You’re giving up your honor.
You think it won’t matter.
You think you’re having a great time.
But there are those who are observing it,
seeing it,
and there is a cost to your honor,
to your respect,
to your integrity
that you aren’t considering right now.
So there’s the loss of honor.
Look at verse ten.
Let strangers
take the fill of your strength.
There is a loss of youthful vigor.
And here’s what I mean by that.
There’s only so many years of young,
youthful energy you have.
They seem endless when you’re young.
Some of us know
they’re not as endless
as we thought they might be.
And if you give that strength
to the forbidden seductress
whose path is empty.
And though it seems great in the moment,
if you give those years
of strength to her,
you won’t have to give them
to the things that last,
to the things
that really matter long term.
Invest those years
now in the things that will matter
a long term.
Those will be taken.
Those will be stolen,
your strength will be stolen.
Another warning, another hidden cost.
Your labors
go to the house of the foreigner.
The things you’ve worked so hard for,
the money you have earned.
It’s going out the door to others.
And this one’s a little obscure.
Because maybe you’re not just
giving your money to her.
Maybe you’re not just
spending money freely.
But that’s often what goes hand in hand
with pursuing the life of sin.
Add another layer,
there is a greater cost to society
with promiscuity.
It’s weird that our world doesn’t
really want to acknowledge that,
consider that.
But the cost to society
from those who have lived loosely
in their morals,
for those from those
who have ended up families
decimated, split apart,
children out of wedlock, children
without fathers in homes,
the cost to society is incalculable.
It’s enormous.
You just look at the statistics.
It’s crazy.
Crime rates go up in homes
without a father.
Education rates go down, income rates
go down, longevity goes down.
There is a huge cost, not just to myself,
but to all of society.
And that’s not to shame
anyone who is in that situation.
God works through that.
God redeems that.
But that’s still not his best plan
for humanity.
Don’t be naive to that.
Don’t ignore the hidden cost
of the temporary pleasure.
Verse 14.
He gives another one.
Out of the brink of utter ruin,
and the assembled congregation meeting,
he has gathered before a group of people.
The setting here is almost judicial
and overwhelming shame.
There are often times
our poor choices will lead
to a public element
and a level of shaming
among those we want respect
and honor from.
I think the hardest one
to read on this list though is
verses 11 through 13.
He says, at the end of your life
you groan,
when your flesh and body are consumed,
and you say, “How I hated discipline,
and my heart despised reproof!
I did not listen
to the voice of my teachers
or incline my ear to my instructors.
What do you hear with him?
Reflecting here is the voice of regret.
He gives to the end of his life,
and he sees, I should have listened.
I ignored the wisdom of those
who have gone before me
and look at where I am now.
It is too late,
and maybe it’s not entirely too late.
Maybe
this is a young son still
who can change his path.
But that’s not where you want to end up.
And we all have regrets.
If you don’t want to keep going down
the path,
that’s going to lead to the huge regrets.
I remember hearing John Piper
talk about a moment that he experienced.
He was well-known pastor and pastor
of the Church of Minnesota,
now leads a whole ministry called
Desiring God.
An excellent,
amazing Bible teacher,
very passionate man,
and his father was an evangelist.
And he would travel
sometimes with his father.
And they were
doing a revival at church.
And God was moving.
He was stirring in people’s lives.
And John Piper, as a young man
remembers, there was a man down
on the front row of the church,
and he was kneeled in his chair,
and he was beating his chest
and all he could hear the man say over
and over again, an older man,
all he could hear and say
through tears, through
grief, was
I’ve wasted it.
I’ve wasted my life.
Wasted.
John Piper said when I heard that man.
When I saw the emotion,
when I saw the regret,
I said,
I never want to end up there. God,
would you protect me?
I never want to be in that situation.
I don’t want to be at the place where
at the end of my life
I feel this deep regret
because I’ve wasted it.
God, I don’t want to waste my life.
I don’t want to waste mine,
and you’re here
because you don’t want to waste yours either.
And we can’t change
what’s happened in the past.
I’m not here to shame you or heap
guilt on you for
what’s happened in the past.
But let’s move forward in excitement
and joy and delight
in watching him work
in powerful ways in our lives
and the lives of our community.
Let’s don’t settle
for these empty pursuits
that have hidden costs.
They’re going to take us
down a path of death.
And what I
love about what the dad does here
shows great wisdom,
because we can tell people what to do
or not do all day long.
The church has often been known for that.
Thanks for my list of things to avoid.
Thanks for all the things
I’m doing wrong.
I appreciate you pointing that out.
That gets wearisome,
and tiresome, especially from a father
to a son.
What he does next
I’m exposed to
the reality of the seductress.
I’ve shown you there is a cost.
Don’t be naive.
There is a cost to your decision.
But then lastly,
he points him to a better way.
It’s not just don’t do that.
Let me point you
to a better way.
Look at this next group of verses.
Look at verse 15.
Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own wells.
Should your springs be scattered abroad?
Streams of water in the streets.
Let them be for yourself alone,
not for strangers with you.
Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice
in the wife of your youth,
a lovely dear, graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you
at all times with delight.
Be intoxicated always in her love.
Why should you be intoxicated, my son,
with a forbidden woman,
and embrace the bosom of an adulterous.
Okay, this section here.
Let me just say,
if you’re going to study
it in Hebrew, have a fan
blowing on you nearby the entire time.
It is, we could use the word racy even.
I think it, elements within here,
which means
God is not ashamed of sexual intimacy.
He wants us to delight in it
in the right context.
He he knows it is good.
He created it for us.
And what the father is pointing
the son here to is this phrase.
You’ve heard it before.
Sometimes the best defense is what?
A good offense.
What that means,
and I would put it in sports terms,
but I’m terrible at sports.
Let me talk about chess.
When I taught my kids
about playing chess,
sometimes when someone
puts you in a tight spot,
they come after your important piece.
Let’s say the bishop,
they’ve got you cornered,
and you want to retreat.
Sometimes the best thing to do
is to go on the offense
attack one of their pieces,
make them go on the defense.
Sometimes the best defense
is not just to pull back
hover in the corner. Go on the offense.
What he’s saying
here is
don’t just only avoid the seductress.
Pursue your love.
Pursue the wife of your youth.
The wording
there means
the one you chose when you were young.
And look, this is important.
Let me let me emphasize this
for the young men and women in the room.
Remember your covenant.
Remember that
when you were on the altar together,
you said,
I choose you before God and others.
I’m choosing you
because there will come a day
or someone comes along
who comes,
who seems more attractive to you.
It will happen.
Remember your covenant.
I’ve already chosen my soulmate,
already chosen them. Pursue them.
Go after them.
Don’t be lured into the temptation
of the thing that in
the moment seems better.
Remember your covenant
and again,
not shaming, not heaping guilt on
anyone who’s gone down that path and gone
the wrong direction. I know it happens.
I’m not naive to that.
And yet we would all say,
man, follow
God’s plan, it’s the best way to go.
Not always in our control either.
I get that.
But if you’re young,
if you’re hearing this,
keep to that covenant commitment
before God, keep pursuing one another.
Keep loving one another way
because, well,
because that’s where you’re going
to find the greatest tool.
In fact, the word we use here,
I love this word.
Look at verse 19, be intoxicated
always in her love.
Yes, this is a Baptist church.
Yes, I read the word intoxicated.
It seems weird.
Let me explain a little bit.
In fact, Tim Keller talks also about this word
can also means something along
the lines of lose yourself,
lose yourself in her love.
Be completely filled up in her love.
Be so filled with her love that no other
seemingly wonderful thing comes by
and you see it for what it is.
You see the emptiness of it.
Look at this quote from Tim Keller
and put it on the screen.
This is helpful way
to consider this
true intimacy depends not on fleeting
chemistry,
but on long term, committed faithfulness
to helping the other person
be all they should be before you.
Which would you rather have?
The momentary, fleeting
seeming joy, seeming delight?
Or the long term,
deep, faithful commitment
where the other person
is living their life
and a big part of their life is doing
all they can to love
and serve you,
doing all they can to help you
experience life to its fullest.
They’re making you a better person,
not tearing your down,
not just using you
for their temporary pleasures.
You see the gigantic difference
between the two and this intoxication.
One of the beauties of poetry,
by the way, is
when they use a word one way
and then use it
another to show you the contrast.
Because in the next verse
the exact same word.
Be always intoxicated with her love.
Verse 19.
Why should you be intoxicated
with a forbidden woman?
Don’t lose yourself
in something that will lead to your end.
Lose yourself
in the joy the wife of your youth.
Follow God’s plan and happily
do your greatest joy.
I want to give a couple of, I think,
practical applications
related to this passage.
I think
there’s some things
that we need to implement
in our lives to help protect us,
because whether you’re the young man
or the old,
the young woman
or the old, we all face temptation.
It doesn’t go away.
Let me give you a few practical points.
Number one,
speak the truth against empty temptation.
Speak the truth to empty temptation.
Here’s a great example.
Just flip over to the book of Genesis.
One of the powerful,
powerful examples of this is with Joseph
in Genesis 39,
Genesis is the first book in the Bible.
Look to the end of that
near the end, Genesis 39.
And if you
remember, Joseph had a hard life.
There were ups and downs,
but he had moments
where things were amazing.
And in chapter 39,
he’s running Potiphar’s house.
Potiphar’s given him
charge of the whole house.
He can do whatever he wants,
and Potiphar’s wife now finds Joseph
very attractive, and she’s pursuing him.
Verse seven.
And after a time his master’s wife
cast her eyes at Joseph
and said, lie with me.
But he refused
and here’s the important part.
He spoke it out loud.
Sometimes just stating the temptation
out loud
will create a layer of protection.
Don’t continue to foster
what she said.
That’s interesting. Interesting proposal.
Let me contemplate that.
No,
he speaks
against the empty temptation out loud.
He refused and said to his master’s
wife, behold,
because of my master
has no concern
about anything in the house.
He has put everything
that he has in my charge.
He is not greater in
this house than I am, nor
has he kept back anything from me
except you,
because you are his wife.
How then
can I do this great wickedness and sin
against God, not just against him.
Not just,
just against her
or even himself, against God.
He spoke the emptiness of the temptation
out loud, revealed he spoke to it.
And there’s great power in that.
Don’t just give in to it.
Don’t just continue to chew on it.
State out loud.
All right, number two,
second wave of that great promise.
The second way
to stand up against temptation.
Sometimes you’re going
to have to make hard decisions
about your associations.
You’re going to have
to make hard decisions
about your associations.
Heard a stat this week,
75% of affairs begin…
where do you think?
I heard a lot of mumbling.
People don’t want to talk about it apparently.
At work.
Why do you think that is?
Where do you spend the bulk of your time
with people?
You spend more time
with people who you work than you do
with anyone else
often.
That’s where relationship is our formed.
That’s
that’s where somebody says
something that, you know, well,
I haven’t had that kind of encouragement.
That was nice.
That tasted good.
Let me go back over to them.
Maybe they’ll give me more of that.
You know, if you find yourself
continually going out of your way
to pass that person’s office door,
I don’t really have a reason to be there,
but let me just
somehow I’m walking down there again,
or that place on the factory floor
or that business place.
We had that great interaction.
First person at the cashier.
If you find yourself doing that
and you know what’s going on
deep in your heart.
Man, tell someone, bring someone in.
Hey, look, I see this about now.
Here, I want you to keep an eye on me.
You’re there too.
You work an office down.
You’ll know when I’m coming by,
but I’m not supposed to be over there.
You call me out on it.
Bring it out in the open.
Sin loves to grow in the dark.
Bring it out in the open.
What did he say to him earlier?
Don’t even go near her door.
Stay off the street.
You’re going to have to
make some hard decisions
about your association,
especially if it’s progressed
far beyond that.
I remember
I served in ministry with a guy.
We both spoke in marriage conferences
about how to strengthen your marriage,
and he found himself in a place
where he had become way too
familiar with a lady at work,
and he knew things
haven’t progressed beyond that,
but they’re headed that way,
and I don’t know what to do.
We work together.
She’s not a cube down the hall.
We’re right beside each other.
Can’t avoid her.
So he comes to his wife and says,
this is where things are,
and I don’t know what to do.
And I
don’t want to keep going down this path,
but that’s where it’s headed.
And they prayed about it.
They talked about it.
She talked with their pastor
they met with in front of him.
And he ultimately ended up
even though he had
a really successful career
in this company,
he ended up deciding to change companies,
change jobs because of how much he cared
about his family.
And that was a hard call.
And it was the fact
that he was sharing this with me.
We asked him, can we video this?
We’d love to share this with other people
in ministry. And he said,
and here he
was, this was ten, 15 years later.
My kids don’t even know yet.
Let me tell them first.
They didn’t even know why
he made that big career
change in the middle of life.
The point is,
you’re going to have to make sometimes
some hard decisions
about your associations.
Be willing to do that
for the greater good. It’s worth it.
It really is, as hard as that is.
It’s worth it.
Number three, pursue
the one you have.
Go on
the offense
or the offense,
not the defense.
I mean, just avoid doing the wrong thing.
Let me pursue the one I have,
whether that’s your wife or your husband.
If you’re not married,
it’s your friendships.
And pursue
those rich friendships
around you,
the people you can lean
on, the people in your church,
in your life group,
in your community, your family.
Don’t just hole up at home
trying to figure it all out yourself.
Pursue them.
And then number four,
find freedom through discipline.
Find freedom
through discipline. I love this quote.
It’s a long quote
from a commentator named Euler,
but he was referencing this passage
because the word discipline shows up
in this chapter
five and watch
let’s put this quote on the screen.
Look at how he describes this.
When we practice self-discipline,
sex, food, sleep, exercise,
work, play, speech, I added finances.
It promotes self-knowledge, self-mastery,
and, paradoxically, freedom.
Theresa loves
hearing the word freedom.
Look, living however you want doesn’t lead,
that’s not true freedom.
That’s actually slavery to your impulses.
The addict lives however they want
and they’re enslaved.
The person who is has financial
freedom has made
tremendously hard
decisions about their finances.
They don’t just spend however they want.
That’s not true freedom.
True freedom comes through discipline,
through making hard choices,
saying no
to something that seems great
on the surface but you know has a hidden cost.
And look, the same is true spiritually.
There’s no shortcuts
to growing spiritually.
It takes it takes effort.
I mean, God may do miraculous things
in your lives to move you way forward.
And it is that that definitely happens.
But for most of us,
spiritual growth
is a long, plodding effort
over time.
For my quiet time.
Listen,
I try to be very disciplined
about my morning Bible study time.
That is the freshest time when
my mind and heart
are the most open
to hearing from the Lord.
For some of you it may be the evening, depending
on how you are wired,
but the quiet
time doesn’t start in the morning.
It requires discipline
the night before.
I’m preparing the environment,
I’m setting out the books
I want to study.
I’m making sure the coffee is ready
because you cannot have quiet time
without coffee. I’m convinced personally.
It’s ready.
It’s going to go off.
I want to smell it brewing.
It’s going to wake me up.
I’m going to sleep eager
and excited to get up.
I’m making sure we go to bed early.
I’m making sure I’ve said no
to the things
that are going to keep me up late.
Discipline is required the night before.
If I’ve not got enough sleep,
I’m going to fall asleep reading the Bible.
I just will, no matter how great it is.
It takes discipline
the night before to experience
the fullness
of what it means
to connect with the Lord early
in the morning.
Make those hard decisions in your life
to experience
the most of what he has to offer.
And then I would say,
also let me just add focus on gratitude.
It’s so easy for those who are married.
It’s so easy
to focus on things that aren’t
going right.
Isn’t that our natural tendency?
Well, this could be better.
That meal could have been nicer.
You could have done a better job
on that project.
The car’s falling apart. What?
We tend to focus on all of those things.
Turn your heart to gratitude.
Just for a moment today.
Even if things are hard.
Give great love
and gratitude for the person
God has given you in pursuing.
Why do we do this?
We do this because we don’t [???] Look
at how the passage ends.
Looks at verse 21
A man’s ways are before
the eyes of the Lord.
He ponders all his past
The iniquities of the wicked
ensnare him, and
he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
He dies for a lack of discipline.
Because of his great folly
he is led astray– that word astray is
the same word as intoxicated.
You see that word play. Be intoxicated in love,
not in the love of another,
but for the one that
is yours.
And don’t be naive.
Verse 21
A man’s ways are
before the eyes of the Lord,
the way we live.
It may seem to be in secret.
We may think others don’t know,
but ultimately the one who matters
the most. He knows.
He knows.
We can’t hide it from him.
He is the one,
by the way,
Jesus is the one who set the model
for us.
He’s the one who set the model
for us to say no to the temporal pleasure
for the greater good.
Hebrews chapter 12.
For the joy set before
him, he endured the cross.
Here we have the God of the universe,
who puts on human flesh and goes through
horrific suffering on our behalf.
And if he can do that,
I can say no to that temporary empty pleasure
that seems overwhelming,
seems so important in the moment.
I look to him, look to his example.
He’s the one that’s gone before you.
And of course, leading up to this week,
this moment of extra emphasis.
Take some time this week
you just read through the Easter story,
read through Philippians
where it talks about
he humbled himself,
becoming obedient
to the point of death,
even death on a cross.
He made himself
Some made a little lower than man.
He brought himself down
to our level out of love for us.
That’s what he did for you.
Walk in the
joy of that
and live it out in your life as well.
Now I’m going to pray, but first,
just let me encourage you.
I’ve got a couple
of important announcements to make.
You’re going to want to hear them.
And they’re not about cinnamon rolls.
They’re about things
more important than that.
I’ve already
talked about the cinnamon rolls.
I’m going to pray,
then I want to mention
a couple of quick things.
God, thank you for your example of
enduring the cross
for the joy set before you.
Every day
you were tempted with empty pleasures,
things that seem great on the surface,
but they’re too good to be true.
Jesus, would you help expose
the hidden cost?
May we see that in our hearts.
May we pursue the greater joy in you,
the greater joy in the one you’ve given us.
The greater joy
in knowing you to the fullest.
God help us to walk in that joy
and delight this week.
And would you give us openings
to talk about you with our loved ones,
with our family members,
with our coworkers?
Would you open that door?
Thank you for dying on behalf of us.
We love you. Amen.
