June 15, 2025 |
Sunday Morning
Proverbs 27 | What Proverbs Says about Friends
John C. Majors |
Proverbs 27
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Well, it was exciting to see
all these kids down here
continuing the energy
from Vacation Bible School this week.
It was a
it was a spiritually powerful week.
And if you were involved
in VBS in any way,
whether you volunteered, help plan
anything, would you stand up?
And just so we can appreciate you
and give you thanks?
Come on.
I know there was a bunch.
Yeah.
It it was almost easier to have you stand
if you didn’t participate.
I think we had so many involved.
We had some exciting moments.
In fact,
unfortunately, Lauren is not here.
She headed up the whole thing,
or I’d have her come up
and we just give her some thanks.
Because she’s over
our children’s ministry.
She and her husband,
they both were athletes at Murray.
He played baseball there
and she ran track there.
And so they were like,
we, this may never happen again.
They’re in the College World Series.
We’re going to go see it.
So they’re off doing that.
But we had some exciting
times in fact, we even lost,
some of
our members involved in this lost
parts of their person
in the process of raising missions funds.
Steve Brown,
if you don’t mind standing up,
you may not recognize him.
Steve,
Steve had a beard down to about here,
but he promised if we hit the missions
funding goal, I’m going to shave it off.
And of course, that got a lot of the
it wasn’t the missions part
that got the kids motivated.
It was the beard, maybe.
And hopefully it was both.
That’s why we left out
in the lobby though.
This igloo they built,
all the snowflakes that are hanging down.
Each one represents
$5 given toward missions by those kids
last week. So it was a great time.
A lot of
really powerful
spiritual conversations as well.
And thank you for all
you’re a part of
in participating in that.
It’s probably the most powerful outreach
we have as a church the week of VBS.
So thank you for being involved in that.
All right.
We’re continuing in our study
of the book of Proverbs,
the Book of Wisdom.
We all need ancient wisdom
for a modern age.
And as we study the Book of Proverbs,
we went through the first nine chapters.
Now we’re just going to look at a time
because Proverbs hips hits
so many different topics
all across the various chapters
in the middle.
This week
we’re going to be looking at friendships.
What does Proverbs have to say about
developing strong, godly friendships?
One of my
favorite authors as a child
and still today, is C.S.
Lewis. I loved reading.
You may have heard of read Chronicles
of Narnia
Lion, the witch and the wardrobe,
and I love those stories as a kid,
but I also loved learning
about all the other things
he had written.
One of the things
that was really important to him
was friendship.
In fact, he had a very close friendship
with a number of other authors.
They would meet weekly.
One of those was the writer of the Lord
of the rings, J.R.R. Tolkien.
They were very close friends.
They would meet often to discuss
what are you writing?
How could this improve?
They would challenge one another.
Lewis actually wrote about friendship.
He has this book called the For loves
and in there
he said,
describing the beginning of a friendship,
he said, friendship start
when you have that first moment
where you meet someone and you find out
they’re interested
in that same weird thing that you like
and you thought no one else like,
you know, for them it
was ancient languages.
They would meet and discuss Anglo-Saxon
or Old Norse.
So typical.
I know for most of us.
But they went, you like that too?
You must be my friend.
We’ve all had that happen
where there’s
that thing that you’re really into
and you’re like,
you do that you two moment.
That’s how friendships start.
But what I want to talk about today,
what does a true friend look like.
And you know, the difference
we’re going to be looking at.
In fact,
I have a handout with a number of verses
printed on there.
If you didn’t get a handout,
just raise your hand.
We’ll make sure one gets to you
right where you are.
We have some people with copies.
We’re going to talk about
what is a true friend.
You know the difference.
We all have lots of acquaintances,
but how do you get a true friend?
And what are the marks of a true friend?
So we’re going to be looking
at this handout
and and we’ll see you in there.
Seven marks of a true friend
in the book of Proverbs
we’re going to use Proverbs
chapter 27 as our anchor passage.
So if you have a Bible,
also turn to chapter 27 in Proverbs.
And the page number for that
in the church Bible is on that handout.
It’s on page 513.
We’ll be reading from the Bible directly
as we look at these seven
marks of a true friend.
How do we get a true friend
who is someone that is a true friend,
not just a casual acquaintance
there occasionally,
but a true deep friend?
Let’s look at this first
one here, the letter F.
The first mark of a true friend
is that they are faithful.
They’re faithful.
Look at verse ten here.
Just the first line of verse ten.
Do not forsake your friend
and your father’s friend.
A true friend is faithful.
They don’t forsake you in the hard times.
In fact,
look at a couple of these
other verses here
that I listed on the handout 1824.
There is a friend that sticks
closer than a brother.
You’ve had this happen
even though you’re
very close to family members.
You you find that friend
that they become even closer than family
or look at 1717
a friend loves at all times.
This is what I mean by that.
That word faithful,
the faithful friend is there with you
even when you let them down.
Even when you make poor choices,
even when you go through hard times,
when you mess up,
when you’re not the good friend,
the faithful friend is.
They’re still there.
They’re not going anywhere.
They stick by you.
They’re the ones who show up
that you can count on
when no one else is there.
And, you know, it’s interesting.
Job’s friends get a
are given a pretty hard time,
and rightfully so.
For saying a lot of unhelpful things
to him. Job.
You know, if you just obey God more,
none of this bad stuff
would have happened to you.
You obviously are disobeying him.
God wouldn’t
allow all this bad stuff
to happen to you otherwise.
They’re preaching to him when
he didn’t really want to hear it.
But we often gloss right over
chapter three
when they first come on the scene.
Because even though, yeah,
they said a lot of wrong things,
they were unhelpful in many ways.
But when they showed up,
his friends sat silent
with him for seven days.
And in fact, it says they sat on
the ground with him.
Have you ever had
someone
just come and say,
I’m going to sit with you?
I don’t even have words to say.
I know you’re going through a hard time.
I’m just going to be here.
I’m going to lay down on the ground
with you in your lowest moment for seven
days, silent.
That’s a faithful friend.
That’s rare
to have someone that will do that.
And it’s rare
when we extend
that kind of committed friendship.
I’m going to be there no matter what.
I don’t even know what to say,
but I’m there.
I had a friend in little Rock.
He was probably my closest friend.
There we were.
We would meet together regularly.
We’d pray for one another.
We’d have accountability.
We had
just a big encouragement to one another.
And he went off the rails with drugs,
ruined his family.
He was a successful attorney,
and from the appearances
he seemed to have it all together
and he went off the rails.
And in the midst of this,
we were on the phone a number of times
and I knew he was lying to me
left and right. It was so obvious.
And I just said to him, look, man,
I want you to know
what you’re doing makes me so sad.
It breaks my heart for you,
for your beautiful family,
for all you’re going through.
But I want you to know
I’m not going anywhere,
all right?
You can shut me out of your life
if you choose.
But I’m not.
I’m not abandoning you.
I’m not going anywhere.
I don’t know what that looks like.
I’m not approving of how you’re acting.
I hate this for you.
I’m not going anywhere.
What’s really amazing?
In the midst of that,
he ended up turning things back around.
Lost his family.
In the midst of that, though,
they’ve reconnected,
reestablished a relationship.
He went through recovery.
And then when I first came here
as pastor for those six months
of driving back
and forth between
little Rock and Louisville,
he was on the phone with me every time,
and we talked for hours
and hours and hours.
And he was a huge encouragement.
And that friendship
grew even stronger through that.
The faithful friend says,
I’m not going anywhere.
I’m here.
I’m here for you.
Yeah, we had to set up boundaries.
I don’t approve of what you’re doing,
and we need that too.
But the faithful friend sticks by
you even through the hard times.
That’s the letter F,
the first mark of a true friend
is that they’re faithful.
Now, you can contrast this with what?
Chapter 19,
verse four says, the fairweather friend
wealth brings many new friends,
but a poor man is deserted.
Yeah, when times are
great, everyone is your friend.
Everyone shows up.
Everyone wants a slice of the pie.
And then when it’s all gone,
like the prodigal son.
Where are all your friends now?
Those weren’t true friends.
Those were fairweather friends.
Fickle friends.
They just wanted you
for what you offered.
Not because of you.
But the true friend is faithful.
Next is the letter R
faithful.
And then r reputable.
Or some pronounce that reputable.
That’s a better way to say it.
Reputable,
meaning they’re of good standing,
of good character.
They in the community are well
known and respected and admired.
You want to surround yourself
with people like that.
Look here at verse 12.
In chapter 27.
Actually verse 11, first,
be wise, my son. Make my heart glad.
Then verse 12,
the prudent sees danger
and hides himself,
but the simple go on and suffer for it.
You want to surround yourself
with people who are described
as wise, as prudent.
We did a whole sermon on character.
You want to surround yourself.
You want the people closest to you
to be people of high moral character
because they’re going to influence you.
In fact, look at chapter 13 here.
It says 1320
whoever walks with the wise becomes wise.
The people you surround yourself
will influence you.
It’s unavoidable.
They’re going to rub off on
you over time.
That’s why
First Corinthians 1533
warns us bad
company corrupts good morals.
Watch out for those.
And we’ve just listed a few here
that Proverbs says to watch out for.
Chapter one.
Do not walk with the wicked.
Do not be among the drunkards.
Chapter 23 2024
one do not be envious of evil
men or desire to be with them.
Create distance from those who are evil.
Make no friendship
with a man given to anger.
An angry person.
Create distance.
Don’t have them as your inner
circle of friends.
They are going to influence you.
And then look at chapter
27, verses three and four.
He describes a couple of people here
a stone is heavy,
a sand is weighty, but
a fool’s proclamation
is heavier than both wrath.
This cruel anger is overwhelming.
But who can stand before
jealousy, before a jealous person?
You don’t want the fool, the jealous,
the anger, the wicked, evil.
Those shouldn’t be your closest
friends, your inner circle of people,
because they’re going to distance you.
In fact, one one quote
I like to share,
especially with young people,
that I don’t remember who said it,
but he said
you will basically
become the average of the five people
you spend the most time with.
Now, is that exactly true or not?
I don’t know,
but you know what the point is?
The people around
you shape
you deeply and oftentimes in ways
you don’t realize it.
Not just the people you spend
time around,
but also the people you admire.
You subconsciously try to become
like them.
And so it’s important to be around
reputable people. Now,
let me give a balance to
this as a caveat,
because I know
many of us are also thinking,
now wait a second.
Scripture calls us to be salt
and light to the world.
So you’re saying avoid the world.
Avoid people who are. All these things?
Describe wicked, evil, angry on and on.
Well, no,
I’m not saying to completely avoid them,
but the reality is, those
who are in your inner circle
need to be ones
that are going to help you grow, improve.
You’ve become a better person,
not not bring you down.
And yes, we engage with those
who are described this way.
Even,
but we don’t make them the people
who are most influential in our life.
We know when to create distance.
And this is especially important
if you’re a new Christian,
because I see this happen
over and over again.
You become a new Christian,
and you’ve been running with a crowd
that has been tearing you down
and pulling you away from Christ.
Well, now, of course,
you’re a new Christian
and you want them to know Christ.
Do you want to know them?
To know the hope, joy, peace
that you have in Christ,
but yet also,
you know,
but if I go back, run them with them.
I’m going to go right back
to the way I was.
You have to create some distance
for a season.
And that’s not, by the way,
that’s not giving up on them.
What you’re doing is
you’re actually you’re
becoming strong enough
to actually be a help to them.
If you go back to them
and they pull you right back down to you
where you’re not helping them
or yourself,
it’s it’s
not that you’ve given up on them.
And by the way,
by creating some distance
from someone who’s pulling you down,
you’re also saying, God,
I trust you enough
to bring the right person
into their life.
You actually are powerful enough
to reach them.
It all doesn’t depend on me.
You see how prideful that can become?
Well, if I don’t do it, who will?
Well, okay.
Yes, we do have responsibility.
But there’s a point.
And there’s a time where you operate
from a place of strength,
a spiritual strength.
And when you’re weak,
you’ve got to grow stronger in him
to be
of to be of use in those friendships.
So we want to be surrounded
by people who are reputable.
It’s your core group,
those who are closest to you,
who are going to influence you.
Now.
Next the letter I.
We want faithful, reputable,
and then we want people who give
intentional advice.
The word often used in Proverbs.
But it didn’t start with an I is council.
We give counsel intentional advice.
You want to be surrounded by people
who can give you advice
that you think is helpful.
You respect their opinion.
You admire them.
You think that what they have to say
and what they have,
they have to offer is useful to you.
Look here at a couple of these verses.
Chapter 27 verse nine says,
oil and perfume make the heart glad,
and the sweetness of a friend
comes from his earnest counsel.
One of the rich byproducts
of a good friendship
is when they can help
give you good advice that help
improve your life, that help point
you in the right direction.
We all need that, you know.
It’s too easy to get isolated
and to think that everything you think
is perfect.
Has that ever happened?
I have the best idea ever.
And then you share it with someone
you respect and admire and they go,
what are you doing?
What are you thinking?
And you realize
maybe that wasn’t as great
as I thought it was?
We get isolated.
Proverbs 18 one we didn’t spend time.
We spent time in chapter 18 last week.
We didn’t look at that verse.
He who isolates
himself, seeks his own desire,
breaks out against all sound judgment.
Sometimes we get isolated
because we don’t want to hear
what our good friends have to say.
We actually don’t want their advice
because I want to keep going
down the path.
I’m going down
because I think it’s the best idea ever.
But actually, I know what they would say
and they would disagree,
and I don’t want to hear it.
But the
good friend, the true friend
gives intentional advice.
You come to them, you ask, and they say,
here’s the direction to go.
Here’s how I see it.
Not in a top down, heavy handed way,
but to help give you direction.
They offer intentional advice.
Now there’s two caveats to this.
Okay, I wrote in here in the notes
to ditches.
Meaning
if you’re going down a road,
there’s two ditches
you can fall off on either side.
One is to say, I’m
going to find selective wisdom.
You’ve seen people do this where you go
and find the person you know
will give you the answer you want.
I don’t go to people who I respect
and admire.
Maybe I do kind of respect them,
but I only go to those who I think
will give me the answer I
want to hear in the moment.
That’s not what true biblical counsel is.
I need to surround myself
with people who I know
are going to the Scripture
first and foremost,
not just to make me happy, but to help
deliver truth to my heart
through the Scripture.
So that’s one is selective wisdom.
In fact famous story in the Old Testament
first Kings, Rehoboam, Jeroboam.
Brabham was Solomon’s son,
was given the kingdom.
But Solomon had been pretty heavy
handed on the people.
And Jeroboam was like, look, hey,
by the way,
you need to lighten up
or I said, let me think about it.
So he goes to the old men,
gets their advice,
and they say, yeah,
now’s the time to lighten up.
Your dad was too heavy handed.
And then he says, well, let me,
let me ask some other guys
what they think.
And he goes to the young men
and they say, oh,
you think Solomon was heavy handed?
Wait till you see this.
And divided the kingdom.
He went and found the wisdom
he wanted
rather than
godly biblical counsel of a true friend.
You need to surround yourself
with people who aren’t afraid
of sharing with you
the truth of Scripture. In love.
However, another ditch you can follow up
on, on the other side of the equation
is sometimes we get into this situation
where we’re just endlessly
searching for wisdom.
I got a hard decision to make,
and so I ask someone,
and I ask someone else,
and I ask someone else.
And I keep asking because really,
I don’t want to make the hard decision.
I got enough wisdom about 13 people ago,
and I just don’t want
to make the hard decision.
And so I just need a
little more information.
Sometimes we put
off the hard decision under the guise of
I need a little more counsel.
Don’t don’t fall off on either side.
And it takes, by the way,
great wisdom to know when’s the time
to make the hard decision
to pull the trigger?
When I have enough advice
that requires wisdom as well.
But the true friend will give you
the intentional godly counsel.
That’s letter I.
Now let’s look at letter E.
What’s another mark
of a true friend?
It’s that they are an encourager.
They’re an encourager.
Look at chapter 27, verse two.
Let another praise
you in
not your own mouth, a stranger
and not your own lips.
The word stranger hints
at the idea of a neighbor,
someone nearby.
You want to be surrounded
with people who will encourage you.
And I’m not talking about
false encouragement and flattery.
That’s not helpful.
But you want the people
closest to you to be those
who build you up in general,
not look for opportunities to
tear you down.
A couple of great verses on
this are here in the notes Ephesians
chapter 429.
Let no corrupting talk
come out of your mouths,
but only such as good for building up.
We spent all last week
talking about our words.
Your words can build up or tear down.
Let the words of your mouth
build others up even hard words
as fits the occasion that it may give
grace to those who hear
that’s who
you want to be surrounded with,
not empty praise,
but you want the people closest to you
to be those who build
you up, that
make you better through their
words that encourage you.
Now, in
contrast to that is verse 15,
a continual dripping on a rainy day
and a quarrelsome wife or are like.
Now we’ll get
to marriage here over the coming weeks.
I’m not going to spend a lot of time
on the quarrelsome wife here.
We’ll just say the quarrelsome person,
the people who are closest to
you shouldn’t be quarrelsome.
They shouldn’t be the kind of person
who’s always looking to pick a fight,
always looking to point out
everything that’s wrong with you.
That’s like a continual dripping of water
and water.
Rain should be a great blessing.
And yet too much of it.
In fact,
I’ve heard
from so many recently, unprovoked.
I’m so down with the rain.
I’m so tired of all the rain.
You know there’s something about it.
It just gets you restless.
Sitting in the house all day.
It’s raining all the time.
I feel like I need to go somewhere else
and do something else.
I gotta get away from it.
I can’t escape it. It’s everywhere.
That nagging, that continual dripping,
that criticism
over and over and over again.
That’s the opposite of what
a true friend is called to be
called to be an encouragement.
Not only are they an encourager,
they know when to say what’s right.
They have tact.
They have wisdom with their words.
I love these verses here
that are listed out 2714.
You can look at it here in chapter 27.
Whoever blesses his neighbor
with a loud voice
rising early in the morning
will be counted as cursing.
We talked about this one last week.
There’s something
about the timing of your words.
Yeah, you came to be an encouragement.
I’m not ready for it.
And it actually has the opposite effect.
2520 says songs sung to a heaven
heavy heart
are like vinegar on soda,
and you’ve had this happen.
Maybe you’re in the period of mourning
and someone comes in to cheery
and it does not catch you, right?
It’s not the right moment.
It’s not the right time.
A true friend sees that
and they sit silent for seven days.
They know now is not the time.
They’re sensitive to your needs.
They’re engaged with who you are.
They’re being intentional.
They’re really, truly thinking about,
how do I best love this person right now?
Lastly, what’s listed
here is 2618 through 19.
You can flip over there and read it
like a madman who throws
firebrands, arrows
and death
is the man who deceives his neighbor
and says, I’m only joking.
I’m only kidding.
No big deal.
Why are you so upset? And look,
I’ve got friends.
We are all the time
giving each other a hard time
joking with one another.
But a true friend knows
when you’ve gone too far.
A true friend knows when to dial it back
a true friend knows when it’s not funny.
When it’s not appropriate.
A true friend knows
when it goes from humor to pain.
And they say that’s not
who I’m called to be.
I’m called to build up, not tear down.
Called to be an encouragement.
That’s letter E now.
Letter in.
And the seven marks of a true friend.
A true friend should be nearby.
Look at verse ten.
The last part of verse ten
better is a neighbor who is near
than a brother who is far away.
A true friend
more than likely needs to be
someone who’s nearby, who is accessible.
In fact, I think there’s
two dynamics to this.
I have two factors
when it comes to building
friendships here.
One phrase
that Julie and I use all the time,
and this would be
the first one listed here.
Proximity is the key to community
in churches.
Talk all the time
about how important
it is to build community
with one another.
Proximity, meaning distance,
is the key to community.
You’re most likely to connect deeply
with those you have the best access to.
You’re most likely to be closest
to the people
you spend the most time with.
Probably neighbors,
probably people
that were probably people
you’re hanging out
with at church regularly.
So I encourage people
look for opportunities
to live closer to those you worship with,
go to school with,
go to church with, work with.
It’s kind of anti-American.
The American mindset is, man, just go.
Go as far as you can.
Get better house,
get more land, move further out.
Go to the place
you’ve always wanted to be, but
that’s isolating.
I’m not saying
never to do that, you understand.
But there’s something about proximity
that will deepen friendships.
The other one to pay
attention to here is time.
Okay, when it comes to developing
friendships,
they’ve got to be nearby,
both in distance.
But in in time.
There’s
there’s no shortcuts to building friends.
There’s no shortcuts to friendships.
Time is probably the key factor.
And that takes a takes commitment.
It takes dedication.
That takes some hard choices
about your life.
We’re often rushing around everywhere,
and especially as you get older, it’s
harder to build true deep friendships.
I got a couple of guys that we met
at freshman orientation in college.
We were all four of us
in freshman orientation.
We met the first day,
and ever since then
we’ve been very close friends.
But of course, after college
we kind of separated
off different directions.
But even then, right
away, we
said we spent so much time together
in college.
We developed such deep friendships.
We had almost every class together
through the whole time.
We can’t give this up.
We had grown very close
through Bible studies,
through ministries on campus.
We can’t give this up.
We got to fight for this.
So we started to do annual camping trips.
And then when kids came along,
we thought, well, we’re
gonna have to give this up.
No father son camping trips.
Let’s bring the kids along.
And then, of course, the kids get older
and we can’t work out schedules to them.
I said, well, forget the kids now.
We’re going to keep meeting together.
We’re not going to give it up.
We’ll go back to how
it was before the kids
because these friendships
are too important.
You can’t just all of a sudden
go find a true friend when you need them.
In fact, as we met together every year,
we realize we got too much to cover.
In this brief three nights together,
we need to get regular phone calls.
We start scheduling
monthly phone calls,
sometimes more often than that.
And look,
what does your true friendship look like?
I don’t know, but the reality is
someone’s got to fight
for that friendship.
It’s not just going to happen on its own.
You gotta carve out the time
and make it happen.
Figure out how to have that friend
be nearby
so they can speak into your life.
That’s let her in.
And now let her die.
The mark of a true friend,
one mark of a true friend
is that they are can be,
will be when needed.
Direct.
In fact, the word is candor
and that could also be used.
Are not afraid of saying the hard thing.
In fact,
look at verses
five and six in chapter 27.
Better is an open rebuke than hidden
love.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend.
Profuse are the kisses of an enemy.
I love that verse
because it’s the opposite
of what you expect.
Wounds usually come from an enemy.
Kiss is usually come from a friend.
Well, maybe don’t go around
kissing your friend, but you understand.
Like the loving
should come from a friend.
And this shows sometimes wounds help.
Sometimes kisses aren’t true.
They’re false.
And the faithful friend
isn’t afraid to be direct.
They know
there are times
I’ve got to say the hard thing
to a friend.
For the sake of for the relationship.
I’m willing to risk
saying the hard thing,
knowing that this couldn’t
hurt the friendship.
But hopefully we’ve got enough
goodwill built up that
I can say this to them
because I love them.
Because I care about them
for the good of the friendship.
Your truest friends
are willing to do that.
They are.
It’s not a true friend
who will ignore the hard thing
that won’t point out
the blind spot in your life
that let you keep going along,
and not even realizing that you’re blind.
True friends are built
and that friendship is built on truth.
C.S.
Lewis highlighted this as well.
He said, if
if someone wants to be your friend
and they say,
but I don’t want to hear the truth.
That’s not a friendship
that that friendship
has nothing that it’s based on
whatever they want.
It’s not it’s not a true friendship.
The true friend will be direct.
They will be clear.
They’re not afraid of giving you
the rebuke.
They’re not afraid of telling you
what you need to hear.
Now, let me give two caveats
to that as well.
Yeah.
Remember, the title is friend,
not Holy Spirit.
You are not the Holy Spirit
for your friend.
And if you’re always
rebuking and correcting me,
we’re not going to be hanging out
a whole lot after a while.
Distance is going to
come between us
because the person
who does that over and over again,
and sometimes you’ll hear this.
Well, I just told it like it is
and they couldn’t handle it anymore.
Well,
sometimes that’s a sign that maybe
you think there’s nothing wrong with you.
Or I should say maybe
I think there’s nothing wrong with me.
But I’m not talking about you, per se.
I’ve been there,
overly critical of the friend.
All you see
is the things they’re doing wrong.
I’m not the Holy Spirit.
I’m not your Holy Spirit.
The call of the friend
is to know,
to have the wisdom, to know
when to deliver the rebuke
and to do it in kindness and in love,
and with
a measure of humility, realizing,
look, I may not be 100% right on this,
but here’s what I’m seeing.
And as your friend,
I know you would be willing
to risk the friendship
to bring this up with me,
to help me be better.
That’s the mark of a true friend.
That is love.
So you’re not the Holy Spirit.
And then second, one thing to be mindful
of is.
We’ve already looked at first, Peter,
that talked about the reality
that love covers a multitude of sins
and a good friendship.
Does that,
overlook many things with a true friend?
Things that might bother me normally
I overlook
for the sake of the friendship.
So, John, which is it?
Are you saying to go around rebuking,
or are you saying to go around
overlooking things?
Well, keep in mind with first
Peter says love covers
a multitude of sins.
It doesn’t say every sin.
There are things
for the sake of the friendship,
we got to bring up
if we want to keep growing,
if we want the relationship
to be based on truth,
we’ve got to bring it up.
And look.
All this brings us to letter S.
Here’s what’s happening
in a true friendship.
What happens in a true
friendship is sharpening.
I didn’t listen to verse here,
but it’s verse 17.
Iron sharpens iron
and so one man sharpens another.
You’ve had this happen.
The best friendships.
You sharpen one another,
you make one another better.
And by the way, sharpening
iron, sharpening iron.
Sparks are flying.
Metal is being shaved off.
That’s not a comfortable process,
but we’re making one another better.
We’re sharpening one another.
We’re willing to say,
I care enough about you to enter in
to this hard thing,
to make you stronger.
I think another word
we could use sharpening.
We could use sanctifying.
As Christians, those closest to me
should be those who are pursuing Christ,
and that when we get together,
there is this longing
to discuss scripture.
There’s this longing to talk
about what Christ is doing in my life.
That’s a sharpening relationship.
That’s part of why we come together.
Hebrews talks about that.
Do not forsake meeting one another.
Spur one
another on towards love and good deeds.
The thing I want to plead with you with
to wrap all this up.
Do whatever it takes to be building
those true friendships. Don’t wait.
We’re in a very isolated culture,
a very isolated world.
We think we can connect
with everyone online,
and there’s some of that,
but nothing replaces
what’s happening here right now.
Nothing replaces the face to faith.
Face.
You can’t go find a true friend
when you need them.
I’ve had a number of true friends,
and one of them I grew up here with,
and I remember in first
grade we were down
the hall in the children’s area
in those little bitty
blue plastic chairs,
and I’m in my three piece
suit like you should be
in first grade
back then back in the day, 1978.
And he
I don’t think he was wearing
three piece suit,
but I still I didn’t look down on him.
Too bad.
And we said, hey, you two friendship,
first grade, five years old.
And we went through so much of life
together year after year after year.
But then I moved away.
He started doing other things.
We started living life,
our own lives,
and we kind of drifted apart.
In 2016, he took his own life.
And I got to tell, you know,
that was a hard day
because I thought, where was I for him?
Where was I?
I should have been there in his life.
This is a true friend.
You can’t just go find another true
friend.
Don’t wait.
Whoever that friend is,
press into their life.
Be the friend you want to have.
Be the true friend.
It’s too important for your own sake
and for the gospel.
Let’s pray.
God, we thank you
that you give us friendship.
You even said to us,
you said to your disciples,
I have called you friend.
Thank you that you are God.
You are Lord, you are creator,
you are sovereign,
and you are also friend.
God, give us the courage
to be a true friend,
to know
when to be direct,
to know when to be silent,
to be growing ourselves in the gospel
every day
so that we can be the kind
of friend that we all need.
Thank you for the book of Proverbs
that gives us great wisdom.
We love you, Jesus.
Amen.
Well, it is Father’s Day,
and so for fathers
and wannabe fathers, we have a gift
as you’re leaving.
It’s a small book
on what it means to be a father,
what it means to be a godly man.
That’ll be a big encouragement to you.
Be sure to grab one of those
on your way out.
Thank you again for all your work on VBS
this week, and your prayers.
Be praying for those kids this week.
Many of them are chewing on
many of the biblical truths
they heard this week,
so be praying for them.
But let’s all stand
and we’ll have a closing
prayer of blessing.
May the Lord bless you and keep you.
May his
face shine upon you
and be gracious to you.
May you feel the fullness
of his countenance
in your life,
his presence in your life today.
And may you feel
the overwhelming fullness of his peace.
We love you, Jesus.
Thank you for loving us.
It’s in your powerful,
majestic, holy good name we pray.
Amen.
Have a great day. Go in peace.
