January 14, 2024 |
Sunday Morning
Ten Habits for Spiritual Life Part Two
John C. Majors |
Romans 12:4-8
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Habits. Small disciplines.
Yes, I read that right.
Small disciplines; big results.
That’s our theme for this month.
We’re talking about habits.
We’re taking a break
from our study of the Book of John
and talking
about ten spiritual habits for life.
What are the small things
we can put in place
that, like the dominos build up over time
and lead to hopefully
big results
especially in our spiritual life.
You know,
when I think about habits,
the really cool thing about habits
is that if once they’re in place,
they’re automatic.
You don’t really think about them.
You don’t have to with a habit,
you don’t have to wake up in the morning
and call someone
and ask them to pray for you,
that hopefully
you’ll get the emotional energy up
or seek
some kind of emotional support
to be able to tie your shoes
in the morning.
You don’t have to do that.
In fact,
I bet you don’t even remember tying
your shoes.
There was a day, though,
that that was terrifying
when when you first
were presented with the reality first,
that I had to wear shoes,
but then second, that I’ve got to tie them.
Man, you did everything you could
to keep those off your feet.
You bargained to get Velcro straps
on your shoes.
Some of us have gone
back to that later in life.
That’s okay. That happens.
But it was terrifying.
It was scary.
It was hard.
You cried, you wept, you gave up.
You didn’t know which method to use,
but you got through it.
And now that’s
you don’t even think about it.
We want to build those kind of
spiritual habits into our life.
Where it’s just automatic.
It didn’t take any extra
emotional energy. It’s just what we do.
And so we’re working
through the word habit.
We’re looking at Ten
Spiritual Habits for Life.
Last week,
we looked at the letter
H –Hear God’s
Word, and Develop a Heart of Humility.
And this week we’re going to
look at the letter A.
Letter A, and we’re going to
look at that in two different parts.
It’s the word abide.
We’re going to look at
how we abide
and develop the habit of abiding
in two different ways.
And to do that, we’re going to continue
to look at Romans chapter 12.
So if you have a Bible,
open it up to Romans chapter 12.
And we’re looking at various versions in
Romans Chapter 12,
some in Chapter 13 as we go,
because there’s so much in here
that are rooted in our spiritual habits,
our spiritual life,
the activity of our spiritual life.
We’ve spent a lot of time looking at the
theological side,
the theological foundation,
who is God. But then there-
that’s who he is.
But then there are things
we do to grow closer to him. And so
Romans Chapter 12.
We’re going to start
by reading verses four through eight
and look at those
that will lay the foundation
for the first way, first habit of abiding.
Romans 12.
And if you have one of our church
Bibles,
that page number
should be up on the screen.
I think it was 891 or so.
If you don’t have a Bible,
we have those out in the lobby.
You can grab one of those any time.
Those are free for you.
The page numbers on the screen
are tied into those Bibles.
Romans Chapter 12, verse four:
For as in one body,
we have
many members, and the members
do not all have the same function.
So we, though many, are one body in Christ
and individually members of one another,
having gifts that differ
according to the grace given to us.
Let us use them.
If prophecy
in proportion to our faith,
if service in our serving,
the one who teaches in his teaching,
the one who exhorts in his exhortation,
the one who contributes in generosity,
the one who leads with zeal,
the one who does acts of mercy
with cheerfulness.
Now this passage is well
known as a passage
that is often
taught
when teaching on spiritual gifts
in the church.
There’s a wide variety
of spiritual gifts in the church.
This is one of the lists that shows
some of those spiritual gifts
that will be employed in the church,
in the service of the church,
in the building up of the body of Christ.
But today
and this is by the way,
that’s a great way to teach this passage.
Today, though, as we
look at this passage,
I want to focus on one word
that we see revealed within this,
and that’s the word community.
So when we abide, the first way we abide
is we abide in community,
we abide together.
That’s the key
first way we abide.
And let me show you where that shows up
here.
It’s in verse four.
It’s one of the first phrases here:
for as in one body,
we have many members,
one body, one collective body.
We use that word unity, one unified body.
We’re unified together
around a body of faith.
But yet also many members,
many differences. Unity,
but also diversity.
And that’s really critical to community.
We have unity and diversity.
That’s what makes unity
amazing is our differences.
So
it’s not fascinating
when two people get along
who are exactly the same.
No one goes, Wow, how did they do that?
No, it’s when someone that you
probably anywhere else.
Do you think I probably wouldn’t
like being around them.
I mean, you look around the room and go,
there’s a whole bunch of people in here
I probably wouldn’t
be hanging out with
if we weren’t here together.
That’s what makes unity amazing
is overcoming those differences.
In fact, delighting in those differences.
It always amazes me how, in fact,
I’ve become more and more aware of this.
If I meet someone
and my initial inclination is
I don’t really like that person,
I always stop and go, You know what?
There’s a good chance
they might become
a close friend of yours.
In fact, I grew up in church.
One of the elders
here, Troy Kolb. Troy and I,
in high school, did not get along at all,
high school, even into college.
But the Lord began to work on us both.
We both matured,
I probably did a little more than him
as we went along.
Not really.
But here’s what happened.
We went from not liking each other
at all.
We started meeting for accountability.
We started memorizing Scripture together.
We got to where we could quote
the entire book of Philippians
in one setting
because of the time
we spent working together.
And so now that was 25 years ago.
But I’m going to call Troy up
to quote
the book of Philippians right now,
if you would? Me first?
Okay, well, maybe we’ll wait on that.
How about that?
It’s maybe a little rusty,
but how does that happen?
Two guys
who can’t stand each other
are memorizing scripture together.
The body of Christ, unity in diversity.
Look at verse five.
This gives us just a little more insight
into how that happens.
How does community happen?
Look at verse five, verse
four one body.
Many members
members do not all
have the same function, verse five.
So we though many are one body in Christ.
That’s how that happened with Troy.
We realized
there’s something greater at work here.
We’re here at church
disagreeing with one another,
but it’s about Christ.
We’re one body in Christ.
That’s what draws us together.
That’s why
the tatted up pro
wrestler fan can sit right
next to the dude in the suit
who’s the executive, and they can talk
and they can laugh and they can all
they can hold their hands up
and cry and worship together
side by side.
One body in Christ.
Not only are we one unified body,
but look at what else
it says in verse five.
We were one body in Christ
and individually
members of one another.
You know, the results of being
in the body of Christ
is that we belong to one another.
There’s a great verse
in First Corinthians.
Where is that?
Six.
You are not your own.
You were bought with a price.
So glorify God with your body.
You’re not your own.
Now that verse, the specific context
of that verse is
sexual immorality,
but even more so
the importance of that verse.
I don’t just look to get out of others
what I want
and use them for my own purposes
in any setting.
I’m not my own.
I was bought with a price.
So I glorify God with my body
and I glorify
God in my relationships with others
because we belong to one another.
As I thought about this verse,
I think there’s two ways in particular
We belong to one another.
And let’s look at these.
Here’s the first one.
The ways we are
members of one another make ways
we belong to one another.
First is our faith is
personal, but not private.
Every person in here needs to have
a very personal faith,
a personal relationship
with Jesus Christ.
He meets with you one on one.
But your personal faith
is not a private faith.
It’s not something
you just
keep to yourself that only affects you.
It affects the way we view
one another,
the way we engage with one another.
I’m not my own.
I’ve been bought with a price.
So glorify God with my body, glorify God
in my relationships.
Paul says in Philippians.
Speaking of Philippians Troy,
don’t think of your own interests only.
Do not just think of your own
personal interests,
but also of the interest of others.
Have this attitude in yourself,
which was also in Christ Jesus, who,
although he existed in the form of God,
did not hold on to that,
didn’t consider it
something to be grasped,
but emptied himself
and became a servant,
taking on the form of man.
You know,
we’re not here just to serve ourselves.
We’re here to pour into others.
So that’s the first way.
Our faith is personal,
but it’s not private.
Now, look at the second way.
Here’s the second way.
We were also members of one another.
Every member of the body is valued.
We value each other, every one of us.
So we don’t have seating assigned
based on how much you gave last year
or how much you bench press.
Right, or how many social media followers
you have, you’re more influential.
Let’s bring you to the front
and you can filter on in…
No, we don’t feed the elders first
on Wednesday night,
at the Wednesday night meals.
And then the deacons, and then ministers,…
No! Look, we’re one body.
First Corinthians 12 talks about this.
Is the eye any better?
Hand better than the foot?
We’re one
body and we value each other.
In fact,
we value each other
because we’re different.
Because I know you serve
in ways that I don’t,
and vice versa.
We value and honor that.
And I remember reading Bill
Walsh talk about this in his book.
Bill Walsh was a
coach of the Forty-Niners,
won three Super Bowls through them.
And Bill Walsh talked about how important
it was
for everyone in the organization to
understand how critical
every person in
the organization
was to the success of their team.
In fact,
kind of a radical example of this.
He wanted to make sure
that Joe Montana, his star
quarterback, knew how important
and knew the name of the person
answering the phones in the lobby.
Joe, she is critical to our success.
How she answers the phone,
that she does it with
excellence is critical to our success.
He understood every part of the team
was important
and we belong to one another.
We, in theory, value one another
in that way.
And so as we seek to build community,
these are key things to understand:
unity and diversity.
We’re unified, but we’re different.
And that’s the powerful part of church
that’s a powerful part of the body.
Now, what I want to give you
all throughout this
series are some practical ways
for building habits in your life
and this first habit,
this habit of building community, which
I’ve not often thought of community
in those terms,
the habit of community,
you know, there are others
spiritual habits.
We tend to think about prayer,
giving, maybe fasting.
Last week,
reading God’s Word,
we’ll talk about that habit,
developing that discipline.
But the
discipline, the habit of community,
how do we build that?
I’m going to give you some more tips
this week on how to build habits.
I’m going to apply these
mostly to community.
You can apply these
in all kinds of settings.
These apply to every habit.
Most of these come from a book
called Atomic Habits,
that same idea, something
small, creating something big,
small little habits in your life
leading to big results.
But here are five more
tips for building habits in your life.
Let’s look at this first one.
Number one focus on systems
rather than goals.
Focus on systems rather than goals.
Now,
this is a little counterintuitive
because goals aren’t useless.
You have to have goals.
But but goals have a limit.
In fact, Bill Walsh, again, he’s
he said, look,
every NFL team
has the same goal
at the beginning of the year.
Everyone has the same goal,
get to the Super Bowl.
So the goal helps some.
It sets direction.
But you got to have more than that.
You’ve got to have systems in place
to achieve that goal.
In fact, I think when Jeff Kemp was here,
he might have shared the story.
I can’t remember
if he shared it at the event.
We had a men’s conference.
Jeff Kemp, former
NFL quarterback, came and shared,
and he was on the Forty-Niners.
He was there
when Joe Montana, Jerry
Rice, Bill Walsh were all there.
And one day he’s watching them practice.
And you know, Joe
Montana and Jerry Rice
are one of the best
quarterback receiver
combos in the history of the NFL
and he’s
watching Joe
throw a pass to Jerry in practice.
Jerry turns catches it, gathers it in
points to the endzone, takes off.
He always–
Jeff said
Jerry always ran into the end zone
with every catch in practice
signifying that’s where I belong, right?
Telling himself that’s where I belong.
So he throws the pass.
Quarterback coach Bill
Walsh is standing there, quarterback coach goes
Hey great pass Joe
and Bill throws down his clipboard
and looks at him and says, No, it wasn’t.
What are you talking about?
It was not a great pass.
And Jeff‚Äôs like, oh boy, what’s going on?
You’re going to tell Joe Montana
that was not a great pass.
He’s like, look, when he threw it to him,
did you notice
Jerry had to turn back to get it?
He had to slow up a step just a little,
and then he had to turn
to go back towards the endzone.
He should have thrown it over him
where the defender
couldn’t get to it,
where he never had to miss a step
and he could charge into the end zone.
That would be a great pass.
That was not a great pass.
And Jeff said, okay,
I need to go work on my passing
if I’m going to get in the game.
But Bill Walsh knew
if we want to end up in the Super Bowl,
every little detail matters.
Every little system we put in place
to make sure
that we’re hitting
the right mark in practice over and over
to the inch,
over and over and over and over again.
So, focus on systems
more than goals. Have your goal,
but if your goal is to build community–
that’s so vague. That’s helpful,
but it’s too vague.
What’s the system
you’re going to put in place
to achieve that goal?
Well, you might say,
where can I find community?
I mean, one of the ways here, in fact,
one of the important things
we encourage
people in Valley View to do
is to get involved in a life group.
That’s the place
where you’re going to develop lifelong connections.
Those are going to be
the people who are there for you
when times are hard,
when times are good, people who celebrate
with you, people who come alongside you.
A life
group is a great place
to build community.
But if you’ve never been to one,
you might say, I’m
going to set the system in place
to attend 2 life groups a month.
I’m going to be in two life groups a month.
Or maybe you’ve been in life
group a long time and you feel like,
Gosh, we still aren’t
that well connected.
Maybe we, the system is,
I invite one couple out to lunch
after church once a month.
You know what I’m saying.
You’ve got to have some kind
of actionable system in place
to see that goal come about.
So focus on systems rather than goals.
Number two, look at this one.
This one is similar,
but it’s slightly different language.
Focus on LEAD measures
instead of LAG measures.
Again, both are important.
Let me explain these LEAD measures
versus LAG measures.
A lot of times
we focus on the LAG measurement,
meaning the thing
that you measure
after it’s already happened
and that you can’t effect in the moment.
Weight is a good example of this.
I get on the scale and measure it.
That’s already happened.
That’s the result of everything
I did over the last
few years or holidays.
I can’t change that
right here in this moment. I could try,
take off some clothing or whatever,
but that’s an artificial change.
I’m just measuring
the results of what happened.
If you’re in sales,
how many sales did I have this month?
That’s a LAG measure.
That’s a LAG measurement
of a bunch of activity I’ve already done.
The LEAD measure is the thing
that I can take action on right now
that will result in
changing the LAG measure over time.
That’s the thing
you really want to track
and focus on. The LEAD measure.
So again, if you’re in sales,
you’ll say I make five calls an hour,
knowing that
if I make five calls an hour,
I’ll talk to one person.
And if I talk to ten people a day,
I’ll get two of them
to give me appointments,
which will lead to three sales a week.
You do the numbers.
You know
this activity leads to this result.
Same thing with weight.
You’ve got to have some LEAD measure
that will affect your weight.
I got to be in the gym
four times a week at noon
with Steve at this gym.
And over
time, that LEAD measure, tracking that
will lead to results.
So community the same way.
How many times
do we find ourself isolated?
But then we look back and see that
I’ve done very little
to connect with people.
How am I tracking how I connect
with people?
Am I tracking
how much time I have spent in God’s word?
That’s why
we have a Bible reading plan as a church.
Makes it easy for you
to go back and look at that.
All right.
Third tip for building habits is to–
and this is a made up word. I know it.
It’s not a typo.
Number three, create encouragability.
I didn’t make it up.
I wish I did because I love the word
I heard someone else use it.
Can’t remember who it was
or I’d give them credit.
Encouragability.
I love this word
because it sounds like accountability,
but it sounds way better
than accountability,
which is what I’m trying to talk about.
Because a lot of times
we say, Yeah, I need
I need to be held accountable,
but we don’t really want to be
held accountable when we say it that way.
And who does want to be held accountable?
Because a lot of times
what we mean is people scolding us
for not doing what we said we’d do.
But what we need —
sometimes we need that for sure–
But most of the time I need
someone come alongside me and go, John,
you can do this.
John, you–
this is what you said you want to do.
You can do it.
Let me help you.
Let’s get there together.
Let me encourage you.
In the midst
of going after
what you feel like
God’s put on your heart.
And so if you thought
I really need to get to a life group,
I really need to be in community.
One way to create encouragability,
one way to trick yourself into going,
is to call someone.
Call someone who
you know is in a life group.
And if you don’t know anyone, call,
the church. We’ll connect you with someone.
We won’t tell them in advance.
That’d be even better.
Now we’ll connect you with
someone who wants to help.
Call them
and say, Look, will you pick me up Sunday
for Life Group?
Will you come to me? Yes, I can drive.
No, I haven’t gone crazy,
but I want to get to Life group.
And I just hadn’t made it happen.
I don’t know why.
Will you pick me up?
And now you know the weight of that.
You know that if you know
someone is coming to get you
and you’ve asked them to
and you’re dependent on them
and they’re going out of their way
inconveniencing them,
which hopefully
they’re doing it with delight,
knowing that they’re bringing you
to life group.
But, you know, the pressure of that,
the accountability of that, the
encouragability of that,
the difference that’ll make.
Look for ways to create that.
Just simply call someone, come alongside,
help me out in this moment.
I don’t know how to get
there, but I need help.
That’s number three.
Now, number four,
this is one of my favorites.
Number four, prepare the environment.
If you want to build a new habit,
focus on preparing the environment.
Environment dictates
so much of the habits we do.
I mean,
how many of us end up snacking on stuff
we don’t want to
because it’s in the house?
How many times do we avoid
snacking on not how do I say this right?
How many times do we not snack
because the stuff isn’t there
and you don’t want to get out in the cold
to buy it.
That’s part
of affecting your environment.
There was a study done by a hospital.
They wanted to improve the health of people
who were there.
So one thing they simply wanted to
do was to reduce
how much soda people drank
in the hospital cafeteria.
That’s it.
That’s the one thing they wanted to do.
Now, there’s different
ways you could do this.
You could put up signs that say,
soda will give you diabetes,
soda will make you fat,
soda will kill you.
You can put up signs like that.
You could raise the price of soda,
make it a lot more expensive.
That’s another approach.
What they, they just simply did one thing.
They took all the soda machines
and they moved them
as far back into the cafeteria
as they could.
And they put the water bottles
right by the register.
And guess what?
Soda prices went way–
uh, soda sales went way down,
water purchases went way
up. Which just simply
proves we’re too lazy to walk
to the back of the cafeteria.
That’s the only thing that proves.
No, how can you change your environment
to produce new habits?
For me, how this works.
Going back to last week’s
habit of reading God’s Word,
the more I can do
to prepare the environment,
the night before,
the more success
I’ll have in the morning.
And so the first key to that is sleep.
There’s a whole another conversation
about how I prepare the home
to get to bed at a decent time
and to fall asleep.
That’s the key.
But second, I’m
preparing the environment
for the morning.
I’m setting out
my devotional book, my journal, my Bible.
I’m setting them out on the spot
where I love to sit
and read the Bible in the morning.
My Bible reading
plan is laying next to, my favorite pen
is there. Maybe some earplugs
to block out noise too as well.
And then I go over to the coffee pot
and I get it all set up for the morning.
I even program it
to go off at a certain time
so that I wake up.
I’m already smelling the coffee
and so I fall asleep
excited about the morning.
I can’t wait to get up,
have my coffee
made for me,
ready to get into God’s
Word with no other hindrance.
The house is quiet.
I’m ready.
I fall asleep,
excited to get up in the morning
and get into God’s word.
Prepared the environment.
How can you prepare
the environment for spiritual growth
in your life this year?
There’s a lot of different ways
that can be done.
One, one interesting way
we did this when we served in Fiji.
We served as missionaries
in the South Pacific for a season.
One of our goals
was to connect with our neighbors,
but also to get in better shape.
My son and I both wanted
to get better at doing pull ups.
We had a goal for
how many he wanted to get to
was a lot more than my goal,
but we both had a goal in terms
of how many we wanted to get to.
And so what we did was
we bought a pull
up bar,
had a friend who was coming from the U.S.
bring it with her, and we hung it up.
In fact, here’s the picture.
You can just barely see it.
It’s not the best picture in the world.
I didn’t have a picture
from the front of the house.
This is inside the house.
That’s my daughter
playing with one of the stray dogs
in the neighborhood, one of many.
You can just barely see it.
We hung it on the carport
in front of the house
and look, there was no privacy there.
Everyone knew everything you were doing.
And so every time we went out to do
pull ups together,
all the neighborhood boys
came out and joined us
and we started doing pull ups together.
And sometimes
some of the dads would come over
and every time
we walked into the house there’s
a pull up bar, Guess what?
I feel guilty.
I need to do a pull up or two.
It’s right there in front of me.
Some guys would come
over, couldn’t do any.
All right,
well, just hang there for a minute.
That’ll build up your strength.
Do something.
We come in late at night
after a ministry event.
We’re all wiped out, tired, gone all day.
They see us pull up.
Here come the boys. Hey.
Ready to do some pull ups still?
No, no.
Okay.
Accountability. Prepared
the environment.
Created an atmosphere where behavior,
even when we didn’t want to, we were
forced to, in a way,
to do the behavior
we know we needed to do.
So prepare the environment.
Number five and then number four.
And now number five.
Get around people
you want to be like.
Do what it takes,
especially when it comes
to building community,
to get around people
you want to be like.
There’s a great, great quote
I’m going to share with you
two quotes around this
that I’ve heard floating around a lot
different places. I have attributed them.
You can see their name.
The first one, you are the
average of the five people
you spend the most time around.
I’ve shared that one before, you’ve heard
that. Is that exact number?
Is that exactly right? I don’t know.
But the people you’re around
do shape you.
They do influence you.
Here’s another one.
This one by Charlie
Tremendous Jones.
He was this really fascinating,
super energetic, motivational speaker.
Guy spoke in a lot of Christian churches.
You’ll be the same person
five years from now that you are today,
except for the people you meet
and the books you read.
You know,
are there more factors than that? Sure.
But the people you spend time around
have a huge influence on who you become.
One of the best predictors
of the person you’ll become
are the people you hang out with,
are the people you look up to.
So do whatever it takes to get around
the kind of people
who are growing in community.
When you see someone
who has lots of friends,
who has lots of people to lean on,
who is flourishing in community,
lots of opportunities to serve,
just get around that person somehow.
Hey, what life group do you go to?
Can I come?
What ministries are you a part of?
Can I just come alongside you?
Can we have you over for dinner
and get to know you better.
Get around those people.
I don’t have this quote on screen,
but I heard a guy recently say,
The only thing
more contagious than a good attitude–
I bet some of you can finish
this– is a bad attitude, right?
The only thing more contagious
than a good attitude is a bad attitude.
So get around the people
with the right attitude.
In fact, there’s three attitudes
I want to show you here in verse
eight to wrap up our conversation
of abiding in community.
Look back at verse eight.
Three attitudes here:
the one who contributes
contributes in generosity–
first attitude–
the one who leads with zeal.
That’s the kind of leader
you want to be around.
Give me some zeal,
give me some excitement.
Let me see some generosity
from one who gives.
And then, number three,
the one does acts of mercy,
or the one who serves,
does it with cheerfulness.
That’s the person I want to see serve,
not the begrudging
serving person
who is like, Why am I here?
How did I get talked into this?
Yeah, great.
Great to have you here.
Go home.
I want to see cheerfulness.
How do we develop those attitudes?
Get around those kind of people.
Zeal, cheer,
gratitude, eagerness.
Those are the kind
of character
qualities we
want to develop as we pursue
community together.
All right,
So that’s
the first way, first half of letter
A- Abiding in Community.
And now the other
aspect we’re going to talk about today,
the other habit to develop
is to abide in prayer.
If we can develop any habits this year,
Andrew said it last week,
get in God’s word, be devoted to prayer.
We do those two things well,
everything else is going to follow.
We can have the best programs
in the world,
but if we’ve neglected God’s Word
and we’ve neglected prayer,
those don’t matter.
They don’t matter at all.
How do we abide in prayer
in the coming year?
What are some ways?
Look at Romans 12 verse 12 and
look at this
one short verse and
one word in particular.
Rejoice in hope,
be patient in tribulation,
be constant in prayer, rejoice in hope.
Be patient in tribulation,
be constant in prayer.
I love that word. Be constant in prayer.
There’s a couple of different ways
to translate that.
One is to be faithful in prayer.
I think the favorite way I saw it
translated was to be persistent
in prayer, meaning don’t give up,
stay active in prayer.
Stay engaged in prayer.
Now I want to talk about prayer
in one specific way,
because there’s a lot of different ways
we pray.
We pray all throughout the day as we go.
Lord, help me in this moment.
Help me in this situation.
We pray in the midst of chaos.
But I think what is needed
in our world today and in our own lives
and in our hearts
is the prayer of stillness.
A prayer
of quiet reflection.
Because there’s very little of that
in most of our lives.
I think most of us
would admit, myself as well,
that’s a struggle
to find moments of quiet
and stillness to pray.
I mean, our culture hates quiet.
We love noise and busyness.
It’s a great American sin to sit still.
Keep moving, keep going, accomplish,
do, be constantly entertained.
But I’ve got to say in my life,
I’ve rarely heard from the Lord
when I’m on the go, when I’m busy,
when I’m hurried,
when I’m constantly moving,
when I’m not pausing.
I’ve rarely heard from him.
He can’t speak.
He does.
In the midst of that, it happens.
But more often he speaks in the quiet,
in the still.
When you’re listening carefully for him.
I think sometimes we get in seasons
where– I’ve even heard some say,
I’ve said myself,
I don’t feel like I’m
hearing from the Lord.
I don’t feel like he’s speaking to me.
I think sometimes that’s
because we’re, we’re going
too fast to hear him.
We’re going too fast to listen.
Anne Graham Lotz said famously,
she said, God is a gentleman.
He will not force himself upon us.
Sometimes he might,
but he waits patiently
in general.
I remember having a friend,
we worked out together,
we spent a lot of time together.
I was no spiritual giant,
but I was a little further ahead of him
in my spiritual walk.
And there was a moment
early on in our time
hanging out together that I just
was like, Man,
this is an area you need to work on.
It became painfully obvious.
I brought it up to him
and he acknowledged it,
but then explained it away
real quickly, just explained it away.
And I thought, okay, you know, whatever.
Maybe that’s the case. I get that.
A little later on,
another issue came up. Man, listen,
that is not the right thing
to say to your wife, okay?
I’m telling you,
that is an area of growth.
Acknowledgment,
explain it away.
Explain it away.
a couple more times of that and
I just thought, what’s the point?
Why even, why try anymore?
He obviously doesn’t want to hear it.
Now, of course,
maybe I could have gone about it
different.
There’s a whole host of
other things that are.
But I know, too,
that he did not want to hear it.
And looking back,
there’s things I’d have done different.
In fact,
getting to the point
where I just gave up.
I regret that in a lot of ways.
I really regret that.
I think how many times, as the Lord said,
I’ve said this over and over again
and he doesn’t want to hear it.
I’m just going to wait
till he’s ready.
I’m going to wait.
So here’s my encouragement for you.
Here’s the activity to give you. Some time
this week,
find just a five minute window–
if you can do more, great–
But look, don’t set the bar so high
that you avoid it.
Find just a five minute window
sometime this week.
And here’s
all I want you to do
is just sit in quiet. Sit in stillness.
No phone, no music,
and dare I say this, this is hard to say,
no books,
not reading anything, no
inputs into your life. No
people.
Find a quiet moment and just sit
and just ask the Lord
one simple question. Just ask him.
Lord,
what do you want me to
hear from you today?
And just sit
in that moment
you’re tempted to go check
social media.
Just sit.
30 seconds later.
When you want to go get something to eat,
just sit
and listen
for him to speak.
Most of our culture
is battling anxiety.
If we pause and listen
for the Lord to speak–
may not cure it all, but it would help
to know that He is faithful
in the midst of all this.
He’s faithful in the little things.
That allows me to be, I hope, to be faithful
in the little things.
Share one last quote with you.
This one
I thought related
to this idea of stillness so well
and hearing from the Lord.
This is from a guy named John Comber.
He’s got a great book.
Go ahead and flash that up on the screen.
Wisdom has its own pace.
You know what I’m talking about, right?
Wisdom comes slowly often.
It makes you wait for it,
wait for the inner voice
to come to the surface
of your tempestuous mind.
Thought I’d introduce vocab to us here
as we go.
Meaning you’re stirred up,
you’re, you’re scattered in mind.
But not until the waters of thoughts
settle and calm
does that wisdom come.
It’s so true.
It’s so true.
We all need that.
I know we can’t all sit around
like a desert monk in quiet prayer,
but we don’t have to.
Just find a window this week
to meditate, to listen.
Even if it’s 5 minutes in quiet,
asking him, Lord,
what do you want me to hear
from you today?
What do you want me to hear from you?
I know this.
He will speak.
He will speak.
He will meet you where you are.
Maybe not the way you thought.
Maybe not in the timing
you thought, maybe not right away.
He will speak.
He wants to speak.
He wants you to hear from him.
He wants to speak to you.
He does.
Abide in community, abide in prayer.
Those are two things
we’re focused on
in our abiding
as a church,
in our building habits,
the habit of community,
the habit of prayer.
How can we grow in those this year?
And the reason why we talk about it
now at the beginning of the year,
people are usually excited
to build new habits to grow.
But also we talk about it here
when we’re gathered together on Sunday
because we need to be building these habits now
so that they’re there when we need them.
You never know how you’ll need them.
Julie and I, remember
newly married, married about a year
or so.
Julie’s pregnant, so excited.
Just thrilled.
But then there’s a miscarriage.
We lose the baby.
And that was one of the hardest things
I’ve ever been through.
Probably still is the hardest thing
emotionally I’ve ever been through.
Let me tell you,
I didn’t know I needed that community
at that time.
I didn’t know what a community could do
to love on you
in that time and our Sunday
school class at church,
who we had invested in
for months,
getting to know people,
loving on them, them loving on us,
they showed up in a way
I never could have imagined.
They loved on us.
They really carried us through that.
Build the habit of community
now. Build it,
invest, connect.
Because you never know
when you’ll need it. Let’s pray.
