December 7, 2025 |
Sunday Morning
Philippians 4:10-13 | The Resilient Life
John C. Majors |
Philippians 4:10-13
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My prayer for each
of us
this morning has been that
we would
come expecting
to hear from the Lord today.
I don’t know that we always come
with that expectation and hope.
That’s been my prayer that you would be
anticipating to hear a word from him
for you in your life today.
He does still speak.
He will speak to you specifically.
We have to be open to hearing that.
So I’ve been praying for soft hearts,
tender hearts
that are open to hearing from him.
And we do that by opening His word.
That is the main way
he speaks to us,
not just from some mystical maybe
feeling or sound.
And that does happen.
But his word is the main way
we hear from him.
And so we come to His Word
expecting to hear from him.
We’ve been in the book of Philippians.
We’re just one more week
in the book of Philippians.
We’ve spent the fall
working through Philippians,
and the last
couple of weeks
we’ve really slowed down
and just taken it in a couple of chunks,
a few verses at a time
because of how important
these sections are,
we looked at the issue of anxiety.
Our civilization, our world,
our age is riddled with anxiety.
How do you deal with anxiety?
We looked at that.
Colby walked us through.
How do you deal with
the thoughts that come out to you?
How do you renew your mind?
How do you take every thought captive?
How do you bring those thoughts
before the Lord?
And of course, we review
those verses this morning
and make sure to dwell
on the right things.
Now, today
we want to look at a couple of verses
that I think give us
an even more foundational approach
to how we approach life.
If you’ve seen any of the videos
of a racecar driver,
there’s a bunch of different versions
of this. Often.
Maybe it’s an F1
race car driver,
and somehow he ends up in a situation
with his spouse,
with him in the car and I say him.
I’m sure there are female drivers
as well. Just go with it.
He’s in the car, she’s with him.
They’re in a nice, fancy
sports car on a race track,
so he’s not in a full blown race car,
but she knows
we’re here for you to drive fast.
We’re here together,
and it’s interesting
to observe the different reactions
both of them have to that experience
because he
is used to driving the car fast
and so he remains calm, cool,
collected, focused.
No big deal.
I’m not even driving as
fast as I normally would.
She is a nervous
wreck, flipping out screaming stop!
Slow down! What are you about to do?
You’re about to kill me.
Even though she knows
he’s a professional car driver,
he loves me.
I think right now I can trust him.
Even with all that is true,
she’s flipping out.
You got the same situation.
Two very different reactions.
Part of it is one
person is prepared and one person is not.
One person has extensive
training and experience
and millions of hours
doing the very thing
the other person has not.
And I think the word we want to look at
today is one person is ready.
In fact, I would use the word resilient,
prepared.
They’re ready to take what comes out
and be able to bounce back, face it
and be ready to move on.
How do we develop?
And that’s the word
I want to unpack today.
I think that’s the word we want to grasp
that becomes more foundational
than dealing with
what’s already in our life.
How do we become resilient
so that when new things come,
we’re ready,
we want to become–
the phrase I’ve heard is antifragile.
So many are so fragile
emotionally, the smallest thing hits us.
And by the way,
there’s days
that I’m quite fragile emotionally.
You know,
the coffee order is wrong
and oh, the whole day is unraveled.
We don’t want to be fragile like that.
We want to be able to handle
the thing that comes at us
and be able
to weather the storm
and bounce back quickly and move on.
We want to be known as resilient people.
So Philippians chapter four,
I think Paul gives us three ways
to grow
the resilient life,
to develop the resilient life.
Turn your Bibles to Philippians
chapter four.
If you don’t have a Bible,
we have those out in the lobby.
We’d love to put those in your hand
so you can follow along.
As I read,
you can be in God’s Word,
turning there,
reading His Word on your own.
You can take that home with you.
That’s free for you.
Philippians chapter four.
We’re going to start with verse ten.
That’s going to give us the first way.
I’m going to read the verse,
and then we’ll talk about
what that first aspect is
of developing the resilient life.
Verse ten.
This is Paul speaking.
I rejoiced in the Lord
greatly, that now at length
you have
revived your concern for me.
You were indeed concerned for me,
but you had no opportunity.
The key idea here that we’re going
to see unpacked with this verse,
and that has already shown up
prior to this, is
if you want to develop a resilient life,
one step
is to make sure you’re
growing in generosity.
You want to be growing in generosity.
And by the way, the notes
I think that we have up there
might be from a previous week.
So let’s just maybe not put them up
and I’ll just
try to deliver the content out as we go.
Grow a heart of generosity.
If you have a copy of the notes
that word generosity
will be the blank for
you there to fill out.
Paul is very generous-
generous here with them.
He’s generous with his gratitude.
And by the way,
if you go back to chapter
one, verse three,
he starts that way
very at the very beginning
of the book of Philippians.
He’s saying how grateful he is for them.
I thank my God in all my remembrance of
you, always in every prayer,
making prayers for you all the time.
We have a partnership in the gospel.
He starts the book just be overflowing
with gratitude
for them, generous in his praise of them.
And of course, we know
the reason the book was written.
Likely the occasion
that caused Paul to write was the fact
that the Philippians
had sent a gift to him through
Epaphroditus. who delivered it to him.
He says, I know at first
you were concerned about me in verse ten,
but you weren’t able
to help out at first.
But now they have been able to
they have been able to send a gift
and be generous.
And so there’s generosity happening
both directions.
And there’s something about generosity,
I think, that acts kind of like of a,
an immune system
against the temptations of this world.
If you’re a generous person,
well, let’s look at it the opposite.
If you’re not,
if money is everything to you,
if that is your main means of security,
your main means of significance,
if one level you can say
if it is your God,
it’s going to be really hard
to ever let go of it.
To ever share that with anyone else,
that you’ll be too full of fear
to do that.
But instead, if it’s not,
if money is just a means of living
life, of accomplishing things,
if it’s just one aspect of life,
if it’s just a tool,
if you see it in its proper perspective,
it won’t control you.
In fact,
you’ll take great delight
in being able to share it
with others
and being generous with others.
But it’s not just about money.
It’s true of your possessions.
It’s true of your personhood.
Being generous and in spirit,
being generous in praise,
building up others.
We in fact, I think the main idea is
we want to be known
as generous, gracious people.
Valley View,
I want Valley View to be known,
and I think we are very generous
financially, possessions
wise, personality wise.
Giving of time.
We want to be known
as a church that’s like that.
That acts as a bit of a barrier
against the temptation
to be fragile.
It gives us resilience
because here’s why.
If you’re in a state of need
and you’ve been generous
and you’ve been a part of helping others
in their time of need,
you already know that God can do that.
He used you to do that.
And in the same way he
used you to help others.
You know he’s going to raise up others
to help you.
You don’t have to worry.
You don’t have to become anxious.
You don’t have to flip out.
You’ve been a part
of the solution before,
and you know he can use others
to do the same for you.
That’s a shield against anxiety.
The fact that you’ve been generous
yourself.
Also, there’s, I tell you,
one of the more powerful things
about being generous.
There’s something about that
that just get your focus off yourself
and the times you’re most fragile.
The the times you’re least resilient
is the times
you’re most inwardly focused,
most worried about me,
most worried about
what’s going to happen to me,
most self-absorbed,
generosity acts as a shield.
It’s a factor in how we become resilient
and able to withstand what comes our way.
So that’s the first area
I think he addresses here
in verse ten.
But now look at how he starts to tell us
another layer of how we become resilient.
Look at verse 12.
I know, I’m sorry.
Verse 11.
Not that I am
speaking of being in need, for
I have learned in whatever situation
I am to be content.
So the second way you develop resilience
and the big word here is cultivate
an attitude of contentment.
Grow, develop, cultivate
an attitude of contentment.
We want to grow in contentment.
Now the
the hard part of this verse
is the way he starts out.
Not that I’m
speaking of being in need,
so it seems a little bit like,
so are you grateful or not Paul?
I mean, if
someone gives you a gift
and you go, look,
I don’t really need it, but thanks,
but that doesn’t seem
like they’re really grateful, does it?
And he’s saying, look, I’m,
I’m not saying I was in need,
but thanks for the gift anyway.
Now it’s hard to know
a couple of things here.
First of all, he’s already expressed
a lot of gratitude up to this point.
So this isn’t the first time he’s saying,
thanks for your gift in the book.
But also, it’s
hard to put yourself back
in a context in in the culture
and know what were
some of their social conventions
or obligations
or how did they approach something.
There may have been this kind of
you got to act ungrateful
to really be grateful.
We can’t really know what that was like.
It’s important
to be aware of those kind of things.
If you go into a new culture
or you can offend someone.
When we lived in the South Pacific,
we, one of the guys
we ministered
there with,
he was a ministry leader in that area,
well-respected.
He had been
the prime minister of the country
at one point.
He had been a successful rugby player.
That was the sport of choice
there,
successful rugby player in his youth.
He’s in his 70s now
and we show up to the country.
We’re getting to know them.
We’re going to partner together
in ministry.
We go out to eat to this nice restaurant
and we’re out enjoying the meal together.
And I look at his name was Pete.
I look over to Pete in us
and it said, Peter up,
I really like your shirt.
That is a great looking shirt.
And of course, you know,
it had more of the tribal look.
Lots of colors, very,
very patterned.
And soon as I said that,
he immediately starts to unbutton it
and he’s looking at me right in the eyes
and he’s unbuttoning his shirt
all the way down,
and I’m getting nervous.
I don’t know what’s going on.
Right away, though,
his wife starts scolding him in their
in their tribal language.
I couldn’t understand a word of it,
but there was lots of yelling,
lots of back
and forth, aggressive language
and finally
he calms down
and starts button and his shirt back up,
and she looks at me and she goes,
just so you know,
you need to be aware in our culture,
if you compliment somebody’s
shirt or tie or hat,
they are obligated to
then give it to you.
And I said, look,
I didn’t want his shirt.
I just thought it looked nice.
She said,
let me tell you how many meals
I’ve sat through with him
shirtless because of this.
I said, I don’t want to do that again.
And he didn’t know.
And he looked at me and he said, John,
I’m letting you off this time.
But next time.
And I laughed when he said that
and he was not laughing.
Deadly serious.
Don’t tempt me.
Don’t test me again, okay?
If you don’t know
those social obligations
and we have those weird things
in our culture too, right?
Never return a casserole dish empty.
And how does that ever end
if you keep doing that?
By the way,
this Baptist casserole culture,
there’s these different obligations
that, you know, if we do this,
this has to happen.
I’ve got to respond back this way.
Something maybe
that’s what’s going on here.
Maybe that’s what Paul is doing.
I think his main point is
just saying to them,
helping them
see contentment doesn’t come
through financial gifts.
I wasn’t dependent on that
for contentment.
And Scripture backs this up
by the way.
There’s some other verses to look at
and I’ve got these listed in your notes.
We’re going to turn over
to first Timothy six.
Just a few pages over from Philippians.
These some of these are going to be
well known.
You’re going to remember
some of these verses.
First Timothy six.
All the t books are together
in the New Testament by the way.
If you ever run across one of them,
they’re all there lumped together.
First Timothy six.
This is important
because I think in our culture,
the word content
is a bad word.
That’s a dirty word.
If you call someone content,
you rarely mean it positively.
People are often they mean you’re.
They basically mean that person’s lazy.
They’ve grown content.
They’re no longer striving.
They’re no longer trying to get better.
In American culture,
there’s almost
no worse word to use to describe someone,
but that’s not what Scripture means here.
That may be how we think about it.
That’s not what it means.
In fact,
I would often use the word
godly contentment. Christian contentment.
First Timothy six tells
us a little bit more about what
true godly contentment looks like.
Godliness with contentment is great gain.
So the combination,
the connection is made between
the two godliness and contentment.
There is a godly contentment,
not a sinful, lazy contentment.
For we brought nothing into the world
and we cannot take
anything out of the world.
Some of you parents
like to quote that one.
I know you like that one
place yourself kind of in that situation,
we brought nothing into the world.
We can’t take anything out,
but if we have food
and clothing with these
we will be content.
Now take note of that.
What is the base layer of contentment?
Food and clothing.
If my basic necessities are met,
that’s the starting
place for contentment.
And how many things do
we let derail us?
How many things do we let
leave us feeling
like we don’t have enough?
My phone is six months old
and it won’t update as fast as I thought.
Oh no,
life is terrible.
It’s falling apart.
Hmm.
Food and clothing
should bring contentment.
That’s our baseline starting point.
But those who desire to be rich fall
into temptation, into a snare,
into many senseless and harmful desires
that plunge people
into ruin and destruction.
It’s not wrong to want to have enough
to both provide
and care for yourself,
and have stability,
and to be able to pour into others
and to provide.
But if being rich becomes a god,
that’s a snare to your soul,
and it has led many away.
In fact,
it says in verse ten, for
the love of money
is a root of all kinds of evil.
It is through this craving
that some have wandered
away from the faith
and pierced themselves with many pangs.
Jesus said, it’s hard for a rich man
to enter the kingdom of heaven.
Doesn’t mean it’s impossible,
but it’s hard
because it’s a lot easier
to think I’ve got this covered.
I don’t need anything else.
I’m self-sufficient.
When you have more money than you need.
But contentment starts with
I have enough. Starting there.
Look also at Hebrews.
Hebrews chapter 13.
Flip over a few more verses,
a few more pages.
Hebrews 13:5.
Keep your life free
from the love of money,
and be content with what you have.
For he has said,
I will never leave you nor forsake you.
You see, what he’s saying here is
your contentment is rooted,
not in your circumstances.
Contentment is never rooted
in your circumstances.
Paul is in prison, probably in Rome.
He was beaten and put in prison
when he came to Philippi to begin with.
But his contentment is not
in his circumstances.
In fact, Paul, if you turn over
to Second Corinthians.
He made this clear
for them.
Second Corinthians 12.
Or 11.
He’s going to share with them
the fact that you can’t let
your circumstances
dictate your joy,
dictate your contentment.
And we know that Paul was a man of great
faith
who put himself in difficult situations.
Look at verse 23.
Make sure you’re in Second Corinthians,
not first Corinthians.
Verse 23, are they servants of Christ?
I am a better one.
I’m talking like a madman,
meaning it’s crazy for me to say
I’m better than someone else.
But he also wants people to see, look,
I’ve been through a lot.
Let me just list out
some of what I’ve been through.
Far greater labors, far
more imprisonments, countless
beatings, often near death.
Five times
I received at the hands of the Jews,
40 lashes less one.
Three times I was beaten with rods.
Once I was stoned,
three times I was shipwrecked
a night and a day
I was adrift at sea
on frequent journeys, in danger
from rivers, danger from robbers.
Danger from my own people.
Danger from the Gentiles.
Danger in the city.
Danger in the wilderness, danger at sea.
Danger from false brothers
and toil and hardship
through many a sleepless night.
In hunger and thirst, often without food
and cold and exposure.
He goes on and on,
listing out
a wide variety of reasons why.
He faced hardship
and yet
verse ten, I rejoice.
Philippians is known
as the most joy filled
book of the New Testament, full of joy.
Each chapter has an emphasis on joy, joy,
joy, joy.
It’s not your circumstances.
In fact,
I say this to parents of young kids
all the time.
Don’t look past these years.
Don’t just wish for the next season
to get past this. And it’s hard.
It is hard.
There’s no doubt.
I’m not trying to minimize
how challenging it is.
You kind of want to go back to,
when could I read a book on my own
and not be interrupted?
When could we finish a sentence?
No matter what it was about,
just finish one sentence.
Could it ever happen again?
I can’t imagine.
Don’t look past those years.
They’re so important.
Be content in this season.
Whatever season you’re in, there’s
no guarantee
the next season will be easier.
I remember hearing a story
the ministry we worked
in, marriage and family ministry,
we would have a weekly staff meeting
and someone would give a devotional.
One of the guys, Greg,
got up to share the story
and he had young kids at home.
And he said, I got to tell you,
I’m so frustrated.
My kids
keep leaving their wet, sweaty
glasses on top of the TV cabinet.
Back in the days
where TVs weren’t on walls,
they were inside a wood cabinet
and I come home
and there’s this wet wood ring.
It’s ruined on top of the TV cabinet.
And so I’m so frustrated with my daughter
and we’re all kind of feeling it.
Yeah, I feel that is frustrating.
And
one of the older guys in the room,
well respected
distinguished gentleman Harry,
he speaks up and he goes, Greg,
just wait
till they start wrecking your cars.
And everybody
and Greg just hung his head and go, man,
what am I doing?
You know, we all focus in our season and
and look that there are challenges.
How do you pursue contentment?
Here’s what Paul says.
Look at what he says.
Here’s how you gain contentment in fact,
he use the word I have learned
contentment.
I have learned in whatever situation
I am in to be content,
meaning it has to be learned.
It doesn’t come naturally.
We’re born naturally discontented,
never having enough, never happy enough.
How do we learn it?
Look at verse 12.
Here’s what he says.
Here’s how he learned it.
I know how to be brought low.
I know
how to abound in any
and every circumstance.
I have learned the secret
of facing
plenty and hunger, abundance and need.
It’s interesting that phrase there.
I have learned the secret
of facing seven words
or translating
one word in the original language,
and it really meant something more like
I have been initiated.
So imagine if you’ve ever gone
through an initiation process
to join something.
Maybe it’s a club,
maybe it’s a fraternity,
maybe it’s to be an apprentice.
Maybe it’s just to try to get
feels like
get your driver’s license or whatever.
A long, drawn out
process to get something, to join into
something, to be a part of it.
You’ve been initiated into it.
And Paul said,
the initiation process for me
had two sides.
One side.
He said, I know how to be brought low.
We already saw that.
I know how to go through the hard times.
I know how to be hungry.
I know how to face need.
That’s how you partly
develop contentment
as you go through those things.
You know how to get through them.
You learn how to endure them.
It’s really interesting,
though, that Paul doesn’t
only talk about the hard times.
This is fascinating.
Yeah, I developed contentment
because of the hard times.
But he also said,
I know how to be brought low.
I know how to abound.
I know how to face hunger.
I know how to face
plenty.
I think some of us go.
I’d like to try to face some plenty.
I think that would be all right.
Lord, if you want to test me with that,
I’m up for that prayer right there.
Are you?
The statistics don’t bode very well.
Just look at the lottery.
Most people aren’t really ready
to face abundance.
How would you handle it?
Would you be like the watch
the family
million dollar lottery ticket in in it
unraveled them. It ruined them.
It was the worst thing
that could ever happen to them.
And yet I’ve got a friend
who’s a successful businessman
and all he does,
and he just filters that money
right back out to ministries
to missionaries,
over and over, dozens
and dozens and dozens.
Who knows,
maybe even hundreds of missionaries.
They’re a
part of sending all over the world.
They’re trustworthy.
Paul realizes
the challenges come in the hard things,
but also the good things
can be a challenge, too.
I got to be able to endure and face both
and know that whether in plenty–
In fact,
what we have them
still say at the wedding,
whether in sickness
or in health.
Whether rich or poor.
Some of them got to choke that one out.
Really? I got to say that. Yes.
Yeah.
Because your promise and future love.
It’s great.
It’s easy to say I love you right now.
We’re looking ahead to the day
you don’t feel like it.
In richer and in poorer.
I’m going to be there.
Why?
Back in Hebrews
he said that I will never leave
you or forsake you.
He is there for you.
This is how we pursue contentment.
We develop contentment, and we recognize
happiness isn’t
rooted in our circumstances.
This is how we become resilient.
And then lastly, look here.
The last way we develop resilience
in this passage
is to focus on the
source of our strength.
You know, it’s really
interesting that word.
For contentment was a word.
It’s only used this one time
in all of the New Testament,
just this one time here alone.
But
it was a very popular
word in Greek culture.
In fact,
it was a word
commonly used of the Stoics.
You’ve probably heard of them.
Ancient group
of philosophy,
of an approach to life
that was all about
when you face hard things,
how do you get through them?
Their idea was to be content,
which was often translated
as self-sufficient.
You need to look inward,
find the strength within yourself
to be able to get through it,
to roll through it,
to not let it derail you.
But and this is number
three in your notes,
what we want to become
is not self-sufficient.
We want to become Christ sufficient.
Verse 13 he says this, I can
do all things through him
who strengthens me.
Some translations
I can do all things through Christ
who strengthens me.
It’s implied with him.
Christ is all over the passage.
The passage in chapter
ten or verse ten begins with,
I rejoice in the Lord.
I can do all things through Christ
who strengthens me.
So it’s not self-sufficiency.
I’m not leaning more on myself
to find my strength.
In fact, if you need strength,
you have to
lean on something stronger than you.
And when I turn inward
and look inward,
I don’t see things that are stronger.
That’s who Christ is.
That’s why we turn to him.
We lean on him.
He’s the source of our strength.
Look, this is so critical.
I can’t emphasize this enough.
He’s got to
be the one you turn to.
He didn’t come and save you
to make you just.
John 2.0.
A little bit better version of you.
Let me just give you a little bit.
Well, we’ll gold plate
you here to make
you look a little better to the world.
That’s all you really needed.
No, he came to transform you.
All the passages
in the New Testament
that talk about our state before
Christ are not pretty.
You were dead in your trespasses
and sins, alienated from the covenant
of God.
Pursuing the prince
of the power of the air,
rejecting God.
Leave me alone.
Don’t tell me what to do.
That’s not just a slight improvement.
You need a transformed.
And he came in.
And if you know him, you
know what I’m talking about.
You look back at yourself and you go,
I don’t even recognize that person.
He made me someone new. In him
I’m a new creation.
He did something I never could do.
I tried, I couldn’t do it myself.
He did it.
Listen, Jesus loves you.
He wants you to follow him
and live your life of joy
and significance and fulfillment in him.
Come to him.
First
John 1:9 says confess your sins.
If you confess your sins,
he is faithful
and just to forgive you
of your sins
and cleanse you from all unrighteousness.
That’s available to everyone.
Don’t spend
another day
trying to do things in your own strength.
Instead, we want
Christ centered resilience
that helps us to face anything that comes
our way. Let’s pray.
Jesus, we thank
you for today.
We thank you
that you speak to us through your word.
Thank you that in you
we can find contentment
in whatever situation we’re in,
whether we’re literally in prison,
like Paul was.
Or whether we’re facing
hardships at home.
Or at work.
Or at school.
We can look to you
and see you at work in that shaping
us, growing us.
I pray
right now
that each of us
would sense your presence,
and we would find true, godly contentment
in you.
I also pray that we would
sense your power.
Through you, through your power,
we can do all things,
especially the things that Paul faced
of bringing the gospel to the world.
We sing it all the time.
Your name is power.
Your name is healing.
Your name is life.
Will we walk in that power today?
God give us
the ability to walk in that power
today. We love you.
We ask all of these things
in your powerful name. Amen.
