May 18, 2025 |
Sunday Morning
Proverbs 9 | Two Paths to Choose
John C. Majors |
Proverbs 9
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Well, thank
you, Worship Team, for leading us
this morning.
We’re going to continue
in our study
of the Book of Proverbs this morning
and Proverbs chapter nine
we’ll be looking at
and you should have gotten a handout
when you came in.
That’s going to be important today.
If you didn’t get one, raise your hand
and we’ll have someone come around
and give you one.
We got a lot of people who snuck in
the side door.
You got to come in the main doors.
I see you trying to sneak in.
Now, can we get someone?
There’s someone up here with a few,
maybe a couple guys slip out.
Just keep your hands up.
We’re going to see
who can hold their hand up the longest
while we get these in.
These will start being passed around.
Okay,
let me set this up, though,
by telling you a little bit
about chapter nine
and why I’m doing this.
I don’t normally
we don’t normally have a handout.
We don’t normally approach it this way.
This is a little different this Sunday.
Part of the reason why is chapter nine
has a very interesting structure
that sets up
this idea of comparison, contrast.
Oftentimes in life,
you don’t really understand something
until you have something
to compare it to.
I’ve talked before
about how I’m not very athletic,
but I did love playing pickup basketball
with a group of guys
when I lived in little Rock
and served in ministry there,
and we had a great time,
a great group of guys,
and I did pretty well with them.
I felt like I could handle my
own with that group of guys,
until the
day that this one guy showed up
and he was a Division
one football player,
played defensive line
at University of Arkansas SEC school.
Not even a basketball player.
He’s a football player.
And we could do absolutely
nothing to stop him.
None of us could do anything to stop him.
I remember one time
he was coming down the lane
and I thought,
I’m at least going to foul him
as hard as I can to try to stop him.
And when my hand hit his hand
because I didn’t make it to the ball,
it was like hitting
a solid block of concrete.
It didn’t even matter.
It was like your five year old
trying to stop you from scoring,
playing basketball.
He just kept on going
and I thought my first thought was,
I hope this guy never comes back.
He’s ruining all the fun for
me to continue to live in the delusion
that I’m a decent basketball player.
He didn’t even play college basketball.
This isn’t even the bottom
level of college basketball,
and he was way above all of us.
Sometimes we need
that point of comparison,
that point of contrast,
to help you gauge reality,
to help you see reality.
Otherwise, it’s too easy
to kind of get lulled
into thinking that something is different
than it really is.
This is what chapter nine
is going to highlight for us today,
and it does it in a pretty unique way.
So I’ve not drawn out
a lot of the structure
of the first nine chapters in Proverbs,
but there is a lot of structure
in each of those, which surprised me
because coming into Proverbs,
I’ve always seen the Book of Proverbs
as just a collection of random sayings,
no real clear structure,
a lot of really helpful wisdom.
If you’ve read Proverbs
over the course of your life,
you’ve gained a lot of wisdom
from Proverbs.
But it’s not necessarily been orderly,
like one of the letters of Paul,
where a letter and epistle
has a clear structure to it,
it builds to an argument.
I’ve always seen Proverbs
is just kind of this
random collection of things,
but the first nine chapters
have a lot of structure.
That’s why we’ve gone through them
one at a time.
And chapter
nine is really going to end that.
So we’ve gone through chapters
one, two, three.
We’ve worked through a chapter at a time,
but moving forward
for the next ten weeks,
we’re just going to look at ten
topics across the next
20 chapters of Proverbs.
Chapter ten through 30
are really more
of that random collection of Proverbs.
So Colby and I sat down together.
Colby is our student pastor.
He helps do some of the preaching.
We sit down together and said,
what are ten topics
we see here that stand out
more than the others?
Let’s just pick across
all the different chapters of Proverbs,
and we’re going to address things
like money,
like character,
like the heart,
words, parenting, marriage, work.
You see all these different topics
show up over and over
and over again, peppered throughout.
So we’ll go through them topically.
But chapter
nine helps us bridge to that approach,
because chapter nine
shows the central contrast
of chapter nine,
but also the entire book of Proverbs.
And it does it in a
really interesting way.
This is why I gave you a handout,
because it doesn’t
it’s not going to show up in your Bible
in the same way,
because here’s
how chapter nine is structured.
There are 18 verses in chapter nine,
and there are three sets of six verses
first six, second six, last six,
and the first six, and the last six
are mirror images of one another,
a direct contrast and comparison.
Thus the idea today
of contrast and comparison.
And the author does this
for a really important reason
to help us see
what is the core issue
at play in chapter nine.
And so you have that handout.
I’ve put it in front of you
and you can turn in your own Bibles.
If you’d rather also look at the two.
If you have a church Bible,
the page number should be
on the screen in Proverbs chapter nine.
You can turn there
or you can just work from the handout.
But the way we’re going to do
this is we’re going to compare
and contrast the first six verses
with the last six verses.
And in that we’ll see a central idea.
Here’s the other interesting thing
about the structure.
Each of those six verse
groups are structured within themselves
the same way.
Three verses, one verse, two verse.
I’ve tried to highlight
that here in the handout as well.
That is meant to highlight
the main point of each section.
Oftentimes in Hebrew poetry,
the thing that is emphasized
is what’s in the middle,
not at the beginning.
Usually when we emphasize stuff,
we either do it at the beginning
or we build to it, do it
at the end, oftentimes
in Hebrew poetry,
it was in the center.
And the structure even hints to that.
So we’re going to see in the comparison
what is being compared.
What is it
the center of what’s being compared.
But then in the central portion
we’ll see.
What is the central idea of chapter
nine and all of Proverbs.
All right.
That’s a lot to dump on you.
So let’s dive in.
Let’s look at chapter nine.
And we’re just going to read
the first four verses
and the next to last four verses.
You have that on your handout.
We’re just going to read those
and compare
those and talk about what is going on,
what is the central comparison.
So look at Proverbs nine verse one.
Wisdom has built her house.
She has honed her seven pillars.
She has slaughtered her beasts.
She has mixed her wine.
She’s also set her table.
She has sent out her young women
to call from the highest places in town.
Whoever is simple, let him turn in here.
So that’s the way of wisdom.
The woman of wisdom.
Now let’s look at the way of folly, verses
13 through 16,
in comparison.
The woman folly in comparison is loud.
She is seductive and knows nothing.
She sits at the door of her house.
She takes a seat
on the high places of the town,
calling to those who pass by,
who are going straight on their way.
She also cries,
whoever is simple, let him turn in here.
So you can
see how these are mirror images
of the same issue.
Both Lady Wisdom and the Woman of Folly
are calling out to the simple,
come in here.
This is where you need to be.
Both are,
if you notice, in the green,
in the high places of the town,
both are in the same place.
They’re competing for the attention
of the same lives.
But notice the difference
in who they are.
It’s very critical to see the difference
in who each of them are.
Look at Lady Wisdom.
She builds her house,
she has created it.
And the imagery here,
large pillars, shows
this is a nice house.
This is a place you want to be.
It’s a place of wealth.
She, it mentions, has seven pillars.
That number seven
often is representative in Scripture,
not always,
but often of this idea
of completion of perfection, of creation.
If you think back to
the seven days of creation,
even the idea of rest-
he created, then he rested.
The implication here
is her house is a place
where you can find rest.
Her house is a place
where things are created
and made and given.
Her house is a place
where there is
a hint of towards the perfect,
the complete.
This is the kind of house she builds
and she built it.
But also
it speaks to this incredible meal
she lays out for the simple,
for the naive. Come and partake.
She slaughtered her beasts,
meaning there’s meat at this meal.
And at that time, meat
would not have been at every meal
like we tend to have it.
It’s everywhere you want.
But at that time
you had to pick and choose.
When we visited Rwanda,
when we were there,
I learned many people
there often have meat
a couple of times a year.
Most people
didn’t often eat meat with their meals.
It was a privilege. It was a luxury.
It’s a sign that this is a special event.
This is a banquet.
She has mixed her wine
it says.
And wine.
Here’s the interesting part of this.
Wine is often
a picture of God’s blessing.
Not not always in Scripture,
but it’s often seen.
And part of the reason
why is you can’t have wine
and really agriculture in that regard.
If you’re constantly at war per se,
if your land is
constantly being attacked,
you can’t cultivate,
you can’t develop,
you can’t set things aside.
Give them the time to ferment.
In the case of wine,
it’s a sign that the land is at rest,
that God’s hand is upon
protecting, caring for.
And it says that she mixed it.
She made it herself.
She made it for this moment.
Also,
lastly, she set her table.
She’s laying a banquet like Queen Esther
and calling out her maidens
to say, go find people to come.
Go out, bring them here.
We need to go get the simple.
They need to be here.
This is who she is.
This is what she’s doing.
She’s creating,
she’s building, she’s inviting.
She’s going after the simple
for their good.
She has something good to offer.
She cares deeply about them.
Now look at the comparison.
Because the contrast.
When we put these two side by side,
you see the difference between her
and the woman of folly.
What does she have to offer?
She is loud, seductive,
and knows nothing.
She sits at the door of her house.
She didn’t build the house,
and she sits there passively
waiting for the naive
who comes by calling out to them.
And look at verse 15 in particular.
Who is she calling out to those
who are going straight on their way?
You see this idea
all the time in Proverbs.
The difference between
going on the straight path
and the crooked path.
The simple
are trying to go about life
the right way,
and she’s trying to
call them off of that.
They’re still simple
and naive and easily led away,
but they’re at least
on the straight path,
and her desire is to pull them off that
not so that she can give them
this wonderful meal
and a house full of creation,
rest, investment, care, giving.
Here’s all she has to offer.
The subtext here is all she has to offer
is just a cheap, quick thrill.
All she has to offer is herself.
And it’s an empty, short lived,
temporary thrill
from someone who has nothing to give.
She’s just there to take.
This is important to highlight.
This is the reason
I put these passages side by side.
Because, as I said,
if you are living in isolation,
it’s easy to feel like you’re doing
pretty good.
But when you compare it to reality,
you see,
you see the contrast, it stands out.
And the father has been warning the son
all throughout the first nine chapters.
My son, my son, my son.
We saw it over and over again
15 plus times. My son, my son.
Many of those were watch out
for the seductive woman.
Watch out for the adulterous.
But if you’re the simple one
walking down the street
and she’s calling out to you
and you don’t have a point of comparison,
and then you’re in the
midst of the temptation,
it’s easy to lose perspective.
It’s easy to think,
this isn’t that big a deal.
I don’t
there’s not really that much at stake
what’s what’s really going on here.
But when you set these passages
side by side
and you see the mirror image
and the contrast, it stands out.
The vast difference between the two.
So we see the difference
in their character, in who they are.
One’s a giver, one’s a taker.
Notice what they offer here.
So verse four, verse 16 are the same.
Whoever is simple,
let him turn in here to him
who lacks sense. Here’s what she says.
Lady wisdom says, come
eat of my bread and drink of the wine
I have mixed.
Come and eat of the things
that I have created,
made for you, invested
in taking time to build and care for,
for your good at no cost. Come.
But contrast that with Lady Folly.
Here’s what she offers.
Stolen water is sweet
bread eaten in secret is pleasant.
She offers
not even things
that she took the time
to make and create.
I’ve stolen it from someone else,
by the way, who steals water?
What?
What is the it
that shows you how easily enticed
the simple are?
Hey, come get some stolen water.
That’s what drew you in?
Well, part of the imagery here
is also the reality.
This image we’ve seen in Proverbs
chapter five,
what did the father
say to the son?
He said, drink from your own cistern,
drink from your own well.
Don’t go after the forbidden springs,
the stolen water.
It’s an imagery of adultery.
She is not yours,
but she’s offering herself.
She’s someone else’s.
But I’m offering myself to you.
She’s stolen water.
What she offers is.
And here’s the thing that works.
To get the simple, the naive.
Here’s what she offers.
She offers the thrill of the forbidden.
I’ve shared this story multiple times.
It’ll come up over and over again
because it’s.
Significant in the history of the church.
Augustine.
He wrote tons of books 300
400 A.D.,
one of the
most influential fathers
of the early church.
In particular,
he wrote a book called confessions.
It’s really considered
one of the first
early Christian biographies.
And he talked about in there
about how he loved
this one moment in particular,
when he was completely apart from Christ.
He remembers
when he and some of his friends
went stole pears
from the trees of a neighbor.
And it you know, it sounds so simple
and so silly to even for him
to still be regretting that, he said.
But here’s what most troubled
me when I look back at that.
I wasn’t hungry.
I didn’t want the pears.
The pears weren’t even ripe.
What I loved
and what my friends loved,
what we long for was the forbidden,
the thrill of doing the thing
I shouldn’t
do, the thrill of doing
the thing that was wrong
and loving it.
He said I loved that taste in my mouth.
I delighted in the joy of doing
the thing that was forbidden.
And by the way,
there is a great thrill
in doing the forbidden thing.
Many of us know that.
No, you told me.
I can’t do that. I’m going to do it.
I’m going to take great delight
in denying you
or getting something through trickery.
There is thrill in that.
No doubt
she does offer something
that people do want,
but it’s temporary.
It’s short lived.
It doesn’t last.
And at the end of the day,
here’s where it leads.
Here’s where it heads.
He shows it
right here in direct contrast.
Look at verse six
with the lady of wisdom.
Here’s what she says.
I’ve offered you bread and wine.
Leave your simple ways and live
and walk in the way of insight.
Contrast that with what
Woman Folly offers.
He does not know that the dead are there,
that her guests are in the depths
of Sheol.
Here’s where both of these paths lead.
They’re in direct contrast.
Lady wisdom leads to insight and life.
You follow her, you get life
and insight.
More wisdom.
Follow Lady Folly and you end up
just like her.
She doesn’t even know.
She thinks she’s seductive.
She thinks she’s offering something.
And it said in verse 13,
she knows nothing.
She don’t even realize that
what she offers is empty.
And that’s where you’ll end up.
If you continue down that path,
you’ll end up not even knowing
that you’re heading toward death.
The point of this, and the point
of putting these side by side,
is to see the contrast.
It stands out really strong.
There are two paths to follow.
Which way are you going to choose?
Part of the reason
why I put this in this format
for you is for these middle
verses to really stand out,
and you can see verse four
and verse 16 there in purple.
They’re almost exactly the same
and they’re both at the center.
Both are showing you
this is the emphasis
of the opening six verses
and the closing six verses.
Both of them are saying,
you’ve got a choice.
Which way are you going to follow?
Are you going to follow
the way of wisdom?
Turn in.
Are you going to turn in
like the simple to the way of wisdom?
Are you going to follow the way of folly?
There’s two paths.
We see this
all through the book of Proverbs.
This is the central tension
of the Book of Proverbs.
And it’s really important
to wrestle with that.
There’s not a middle way presented.
You can’t walk on the fence between
the two.
Are you going to go towards wisdom?
Are you going to go towards folly?
Which is it going to be?
There’s no middle way.
Jesus says this in revelation.
It’s hot or cold, mid lukewarm.
I’ll spit you out of my mouth.
Which way are you going?
One friend of mine used to say it
this way. He said.
The middle of the road
is a great place to get run over.
Which way are you going to go?
Are you going to choose wisdom?
Are you going to choose folly?
The two paths are set
in contrast to say, you’ve got to choose.
And if you’re not choosing wisdom,
you are choosing folly.
If you’re not moving towards wisdom,
you’re moving towards folly.
You’re not just staying the same.
You’re always changing.
If you’re not growing, you’re regressing.
Don’t be naive to that reality.
Don’t live as the simple.
The reality is we all have to grow up
whether we want to or not.
So the choice is there.
Which way
will you grow up
as the person who is wise, or
as the person who chooses foolishness?
Now that’s the central contrast
to the Book of Proverbs.
And as we go through these ten topics,
you’ll see it over and over again.
Are you going to choose wisdom?
Are you going to choose folly?
There’s a central solution, though
those are on the outside.
The point is, towards
the middle of chapter nine,
there’s a reason why those six verses
are in the center
to give us the central solution.
The central contrast is the two paths.
What’s at the core
of the solution to that?
Where should we end up
to find true wisdom?
To move towards true wisdom?
Flip the page over
and you’ll see the next six verses.
Help us see.
And they’re structured the same way. 3,1,2.
Exact same structure for the six verses
in between the other six at the center.
Keep in mind Hebrew poetry often points
to what’s in the middle
is the main emphasis.
Look at verse seven through 12.
We’ll just read seven through eight.
In fact,
I’m going to start by verse
seven, eight and nine.
Start with its own contrast
between the scoffer and the wise.
Look at verse seven and eight.
First, we’ll just talk about the scoffer.
Whoever corrects
a scoffer gets himself abuse,
and he who reproves
a wicked man incurs injury.
Do not reprove a scoffer
or he will hate you.
Now I’ve put in blue here
the word scoffer
and then in purple
are some shade of blue,
the word wise,
and you can see
the scoffer is equated with the wicked,
and the wise is equated
with the righteous. Three times scoffer,
three times wise.
Let’s just talk about the
scoffer here,
and he uses the word scoffer
because here’s what’s happened.
If you continue down the path of folly
where you end up,
you don’t stay simple.
The simple man who pursues foolishness,
you don’t stay naive,
you end up the scoffer
and the scoffer is the person,
the mocker,
the scoffer is the person
who cannot receive instruction,
who cannot receive a rebuke,
who cannot be corrected.
This is the person that if you attempt
to give them any correction,
they don’t just write you off.
Hey, whatever.
No no no no. Here’s what they do.
Look at the words here
at the end of each verse.
You will get abuse.
You will get injury, you will get hate.
The scoffer, in order to survive,
has to hate you.
They have to make you the enemy
if you attempt to correct them.
And I love the wording here.
When you correct a scoffer.
You get abuse
and all they can see after that,
if you try to correct the scoffer,
all they see is reproof.
He who reproves a wicked man,
do not reprove a scoffer.
If you attempt to correct
the person who is unteachable,
who can’t imagine
that they could ever be wrong,
all they hear is you hate me.
It’s really quiet in here right now.
This isn’t fun to talk about.
I think we all have been like,
oh, that’s.
Yeah,
I haven’t been very approachable
at times in life.
Or maybe you’re thinking of someone
in particular.
No elbows. Okay.
No pointing out to others.
I think he’s talking about you right now.
I’m not sure.
Hundred percent.
But you should listen to this. No,
the Scoffer says I will not be corrected.
I will not change. I will not grow.
I’ve known a person like this,
and
at first
I really assumed this person was evil
and really just wanted
to make life difficult
for everyone around them.
But you know,
I learned about their childhood
and the reality is,
this person learned a pattern of survival
from an early age
to try to just make it through life.
And I’m not,
you know, I’m not saying that’s okay.
But, John,
what would what would you have done?
Put yourself in that childhood,
grow up that way.
How would you be?
Would you be any better?
Definitely not.
Okay.
That led to some compassion
for this person.
Yet I still need to put distance
between myself and this person.
I couldn’t let them continue to abuse.
That’s not good for them or for me.
And pray and care.
But the reality is they’re not listening.
Contrast that.
That’s the road you’re headed down.
If you continue down the road of folly,
if you continue down the road
of just choosing the cheap, quick thrill,
the easy path.
Contrast that with the wise
right in direct contrast here.
That’s what chapter nine is all about.
Look at how it describes the rise.
Reprove a wise man and he will love you.
Give instruction to a wise
man or woman, by the way, both a person.
He will be still wiser.
Teach a righteous man
and he will increase in learning.
So the naive who turns off the road
to the wise woman
not only gets wisdom,
but gets teach
ability, gets the ability to grow,
gets the ability to continue
to receive correction and be open to it.
When Isaac and I first
began
talking about him
becoming the worship pastor,
I said, Isaac,
I’m excited about this possibility.
But I got to bring up a few things
that I need to see you work on.
I just haven’t seen these,
or I’ve seen
maybe that I want them to be stronger,
and I was hesitant to bring that up.
Who wants to point out things
to someone that you feel like
need to be better?
You know what Isaac said to me?
He said, thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you for caring enough
to bring this up to invest in me.
I think what he said, he didn’t say
I love him.
He didn’t say I love you.
We didn’t get all bro love in the moment.
But I heard from him.
Thank you.
Gratitude.
I heard this same idea.
I’m grateful
that you would do this.
Thank you for investing in me.
And you know where this leads.
He will be wiser still.
If you’re teachable,
you’ll continue to grow.
And I love the change in the verbs here.
If you reprove or
it’s on the lines of rebuke,
you reprove the wise man,
you come to him in a situation,
I think you’re wrong
and you need correction.
He doesn’t go deeper into the reprove.
That’s all I see is you hate me.
Instead, he gets instruction,
which we like.
We want that he gets teaching.
The verbs change.
It’s not just correct.
Reprove, reprove. It’s reprove.
It’s instruction.
It’s teaching the wise person once more.
The wise
person wants to continue to grow.
And that’s a great place to be.
I think that’s where we all want to be.
We don’t always get there,
but it’s the contrast that’s set up here,
and it is the path you head down.
If you follow the path of wisdom,
you’re headed towards
becoming more teachable,
more approachable, more correctable.
And if you head down
the path of folly, you’re headed down
the path of becoming hardened
to truth,
closed off to change, set in your ways.
That’s the direction.
And it’s not either.
It’s not. There’s no middle path.
It’s you’re heading one way or the other.
Now look at what he says here at the end,
verse 11 and 12.
Here’s where that path heads up
for by me.
Or here’s where that path is headed.
For by me your days will be multiplied.
Years will be added to your life.
If you are wise, you
are wise for yourself.
If you scoff you alone will bear it.
Where this ends up is two places.
If you are headed down
the path of wisdom,
this speaks to character.
As you grow in wisdom,
you grow in character,
and character is at
the very core of who you are.
It is yourself.
In fact, one commentator said it
this way
Derek Kidner, he said,
your character is the one thing
you cannot borrow, lend or escape from,
for it is you.
I can’t come up and ask to borrow
a little bit of your character.
No, that’s who you are.
And for me to grow in character,
it’s going to take time, effort,
hard work
over the years to change character.
Colby and I were talking about this
as we were wrestling with this idea
and how to communicate it.
In some ways it is like athletics,
you know, the athlete.
Colby played college baseball.
He played at Asbury.
And when you get up to the plate
to swing at the ball,
you need to rely on instinct
at that moment.
You have hit a ball
thousands and thousands of times
leading up to that moment,
so that when you’re at the plate,
you don’t
you don’t have to think about it.
If you’re thinking in that moment,
you’re in trouble.
It becomes instinct.
And character is like that.
Character is training
that leads to truth
that becomes instinct.
You are training truth
into instinct in your life with character
over and over again,
to where your immediate reaction
is the reaction of wisdom.
And that takes time
and you can’t borrow it
from someone else.
I could borrow your glove,
I could borrow your bat,
and the results would not be good
because I have not trained for that.
I have no instinct in baseball at all.
It would be awful.
Build up character
over time.
This is the end result. Character.
Now the other path. The path of the fool.
The path of the scholar.
No scoffer. No.
Note where it landed up ended up.
If you scoff, you alone will bear it.
Here is where the scoffer ends up-
alone,
in isolation,
having driven everyone away.
I remember a guy.
This was a guy
I served in ministry with.
And anytime
or a few times
I tried to just mention a few things
that he was off on and it was scoffing.
No John, you see this wrong, riding away,
spinning in a different direction.
And where it ended up
was I never came to him again.
If he ain’t listening,
he ain’t listening.
He doesn’t want to hear it.
He doesn’t want any part of it.
Why even try?
Why bother?
You end up as a scoffer
in isolation and alone.
And maybe.
Look, there’s plenty of people
who are the scoffer
who are quite public,
who are quite famous,
let me tell you,
they are going to end up alone
when all the fame and money runs out.
No one wants to be around him.
This is the path of the scoffer.
Now here’s what we want to point out
about this group of verses.
In this contrast
between scoff and wisdom,
here’s the central point of Proverbs.
Chapter nine means
at the center of the center
where you go to find wisdom.
Look at verse ten.
The fear of the Lord
is the beginning of wisdom,
and the knowledge of the Holy
One is insight.
If you want to grow in wisdom,
move towards the fear of the Lord.
This is the central verse
of chapter nine.
It is the central solution of chapter
chapter nine.
It was the first verse
in chapter seven or seventh verse,
chapter one, verse seven.
It was almost the same verse.
Fear the Lord
is the beginning of knowledge.
Fear the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
They act like bookends.
On chapter one through nine,
showing that this whole thing.
If you want to know how to follow
the path of wisdom,
you’ve got to fear the Lord.
It’s got to start with the fear
of the Lord.
So I wanted to highlight
all that structure
that was going on here for you
to see what’s happening in the book
and in this chapter,
all of this leads
I’ve got four points of application.
How do we apply all this to our lives?
Because that was a lot.
I know, getting deep in the structure,
helping highlight it,
but it was important,
I think, for this chapter in particular
for points of application.
First
ask yourself
how do I respond to correction?
How do I respond to correction to rebuke?
If someone approaches me,
what do I do?
Do I want to hear it
or not?
And by the way,
if you’re not sure how you respond.
Ask someone close to you.
Ask your spouse if you’re married.
Ask if you have children.
Ask your child.
If you are a child, ask your parent.
How did I respond to correction?
That is a hard thing to do.
Most of us don’t really want to know.
Oh, and by the way, parent child, spouse.
You play a role in this too.
Because if you’re sitting there
thinking, well, doesn’t matter,
they never listen.
Well, maybe your approach
could be a little better.
Maybe there are some skills
we need to develop on timing,
on tact, on wording, on kindness.
You know, we spent a lot of time on that
in First Peter.
Even little things like don’t use
the words always and never.
Because if you say that
I think of the one time
it was true,
instead of really listening
to what you’re saying.
There’s all kinds of ways
that we can grow in our communication
so that we come in love
to build one another up,
not not tear down,
not just to win the argument.
But the first question is,
I can’t control what other people say
to me.
What I can grow in is, am I approachable?
Number two, how do I or number two
has my heart become hard to truth?
Have I gone down the path of scoffing?
And like the Pharisees
who couldn’t even see that
Jesus was the way,
the heart was hard to truth.
Just ask and pray.
God, am I soft?
Am I open the truth?
Am I moldable?
Number three
ask yourself,
do I fear the Lord?
This is the central issue of the chapter.
Do I fear the Lord?
And here’s an easy way to ask that.
Can I say in all honesty, by the way,
even if it’s hard to say,
can I say in all honesty, God,
I want your way above my own.
I want to do
what you want
me to do more than what I want to do.
And even I might even say that, though,
as I’m saying it
with a little bit of trepidation
and fear and trembling,
knowing that
I don’t know if I’m all in the way
I’d like to be.
But I want to say that in faith.
If I can say that, that shows
that I want to submit to who he is,
follow him, order my life under him,
have him
as the ultimate authority in my life.
I think our temptation is
instead to try to often
make God in our own image.
This is the God I want.
This is how I think God should be,
because that’s what my God would do.
Meaning that’s what I would do,
which is making yourself God
and trying to make God
in the image of yourself.
But the question here is,
Will I order myself
under the one who made me and made
the universe and is in control
and in charge of all things?
Should he know infinitely more about
what should be done than I do?
That’s the fear of the Lord.
Do I fear the Lord?
And then lastly,
here’s application point number four.
Am I growing?
And here’s what
I want to ask you to do this week.
I want you to pray over that
every day this week, every day this week.
Just start your morning
quiet time and ask God, am I growing?
Or have I become stagnant?
Have I become unopen to growth?
This is so important to our church.
I can’t stress enough
how important this is.
This is
this church is only going to grow
as much as each of us grow.
I can’t do anything to make anyone here
grow.
I can’t control my spouse
or my children or my parents.
Those are the closest people to me.
I can’t even control them,
nor should I try to. By the way.
And I can,
by the way, the one person
I have a chance of influencing
maybe is myself.
I can’t even control me
sometimes,
but that’s the person that I hope
I can encourage to grow.
And if I’m growing and if you’re growing
up, just try to picture a church
where everyone here is as growing.
And I’m not saying you’re not growing,
by the way,
I’m not sitting up here thinking,
all y’all need to grow.
None of you are growing. No, look.
But imagine that you’re
I think we all would say there’s room
for growth in each of our lives.
I would say that.
And if all of us were growing
at our maximum potential and ability,
imagine what would happen.
Imagine what God would do
if every one of us were doing that.
Am I growing?
Just simply pray
that God help me to grow.
Help me to hunger for growth.
This morning
I’m going to give you a chance
to pray over that.
We’re going to take communion together.
And if you’re one of those
who are helping to distribute communion,
go ahead and slip out
now and get those ready.
