January 7, 2024 |
Sunday Morning
Ten Habits for Spiritual Life Part One
John C. Majors |
Romans 12
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Well, welcome this morning.
It’s good to be here with you.
As you can see,
we’re going to talk about habits
going into the new year.
How do we develop
new, stronger spiritual habits?
Let me say first,
before we dive into that,
it’s really good to be here.
Two weeks ago,
I was standing here,
but I wasn’t really here.
I was so sick.
I was struggling so bad.
And then last week, thankfully,
Andrew was already scheduled to preach
because there was a group of men
in the church
who needed some extra ministry.
They were taking a trip to an NFL game
and they needed a chaperone.
So in order to help continue to recover,
I went with them
just out of pure
goodness of my heart is the only reason
to love on them and care for them.
But here we are this week
to start the New Year
and we’re taking a break
from the Book of John.
We’ve been working
through the Book of John now,
I looked yesterday,
since September
of ‘22, working our way
through the book of John.
We’re going to take just a few week
break here in January,
because I think most of us,
when we’re kicking off a new year,
there’s just this excitement,
there’s this interest
to start some things new,
to maybe revitalize
some parts of my life,
maybe to breathe
some new energy into my life.
And we want to kind of ride
the wave of that energy and talk about
what does it mean
to build some new spiritual habits
into our lives.
And so we’re going to do that
over the next four weeks.
And the word habits is really important.
That’s really key to use
because so much of our lives
are just made up of tiny little decisions
and small little habits we do every day.
You know, most of life is not these
gigantic life
changing decisions that we make.
I mean, those are usually probably
only a handful of moments in our life.
Most of it is just the daily drip
of the small decision,
the small, menial,
boring things
that we do
every day, and a lot of it
without even thinking.
Those are what really shape our lives.
So how do we
build more of those good habits
that just
happen automatically
without even thinking about it?
That’s what we want to focus on today.
And so to do that,
we’re going to actually
unpack the word habit.
We use that as an acronym.
We’ll go through
each of those letters
over the next four weeks
and we’ll end up covering
ten habits for spiritual life
over the next four weeks,
ten Habits for Spiritual Life.
This week, we’re going to look at two
based on the letter H
and to do that,
we’re going to
look at the book of Romans.
We’re going to look at Romans chapter 12,
and we’ll be pulling from verses
in Romans Chapter
12 and 13 all throughout this series,
because there’s a lot in Romans
chapter 12 about the spiritual life,
our spiritual habits,
the way we grow spiritually in our lives.
And so for
Letter H, we’re
going to see this
two different aspects of the letter H.
I’m going to start in Romans
chapter 12, verse two.
And if you have a church Bible
that’s on page 891,
if you don’t have a Bible,
we’d love to put the Bible in your hands.
Those are in the connection corner.
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Grab one of those. Keep it.
We want you in God’s word.
We’re going to talk a lot
about that today.
That being a key to your spiritual growth
in 2024 is to be in God’s word.
Great start is to get a copy of his word.
But let’s start by reading Romans
chapter 12, verse two,
and have that set up the first letter H.
Verse two:
Do not
be conformed to this world,
but be transformed
by the renewal of your mind
that by testing you may discern
what is the will of God, what is good
and acceptable and perfect.
I love this verse.
This verse is going to set up
the first principle from the letter
H that we’re going to discuss,
which is Hear the Word of God.
One of the disciplines, the habits
you want to develop
this year is to hear the Word of God,
to be in the Word of God. And here’s why.
What we’re trying to counteract
is the very first phrase here
Do not be conformed to this world.
That word conformed
has a wide range of meaning.
But one of the pictures,
the imagery we get with it, it’s
this idea of being pressed into a mold,
of being shaped by something.
I think of things like maybe
wax poured into a candle mold or,
you know, Play-Doh.
When you’ve played with it,
do you have different
cookie cutter shapes or objects
that you can mold it
into, to shape it into?
And so this verse says, Do
not be conformed to this world.
Don’t be pressed into the mold of this.
Actually, the word‚Äôs not world, it’s age.
Don’t be pressed
into the mold of this age.
Don’t let this age
be what shapes you, molds you.
And of course, every age has
its fascination,
its thing that says everyone must follow.
I’ve even I’ve read a bunch of
from the monk Thomas Merton
over the last year,
and he talks a lot
about when he was in his twenties
or when he was in his twenties
in the twenties and thirties.
Growing up in the twenties and thirties.
The fascination of that time
as he was an intellectual
in New York State, working on his Ph.D.
before he became a monk.
And all the fascination,
all the rage with everyone
around him was communism.
You know,
you had to become a communist
if you were really enlightened.
That’s what will change the world.
Capitalism’s the real problem.
If we bring in communism,
that’s going to change everything.
And he didn’t even know
what communism was,
but he was convinced I got to
I got to do that.
That’s the thing to do.
That’s the mold of that age.
And of course, later he realized how
silly that was for him to just go along
with what everyone else was doing.
Every age has its thing that they say
this is the right way
to live, the right thing to believe.
You’re facing that now.
Our age is no better.
It may not be communism now,
but I hear from a number of you.
If you’re not very careful
with what you say at work,
you may not be there any longer.
It could be.
And how you talk about pronouns,
it could even just be mentioning
that you have a faith.
Don’t let this world
press you into its mold.
Now, the counteraction to that
in this verse,
look at what it says to do
instead of
being conformed, pressed into the mold
shaped by this world.
Look at what it says.
Instead of that,
it says,
Don’t be conformed to this world,
but be transformed
by the renewal of your mind.
And part of the contrast
between those two words
conformed is focused on the outward shape
and appearance.
But transformed drives to the inward
foundational shaping
of your very core
and character of who you are.
There’s a drastic difference
between those two,
not just focused on outward appearances.
A friend of mine
I worked with in publishing, she said,
Let’s say we had a book
we needed to publish
and the content wasn’t very good.
She said, Well, what we’ll do,
she said,
We’re going to put some lipstick
on that pig,
meaning we’ll put a nice cover on it
and maybe people will buy it
then. We don’t want to just focus
on the outward appearance.
We want to change
from the very inward
nature of our character, at our very
core, to be transformed.
In fact,
as I was studying this passage,
one thing I like to do,
I encourage you, I usually have kind of
we teach from the ESV,
I have a base translation
that I tend to read in my
own Bible study time.
But but I like to read
a lot of different translations.
I think
that really brings
insight into a passage
is to read broadly.
It’s a great thing to do.
One of the translations
I ran across,
I thought summarized up this idea
so well.
It’s by Eugene Peterson.
It’s more of a paraphrase,
but read this on the screen with me.
Look at how he takes this verse
and shapes
it in kind of everyday language.
Don’t become so
well-adjusted to your culture
that you fit into it
without even thinking.
But that
becomes your default behavior,
Whatever the culture says,
whatever the mold at this age,
that’s just where I fall
automatically without thinking,
No, no, no.
Instead, fix your attention on God,
you’ll be changed from the inside out.
I love the way he said that.
How do we become transformed?
That word sounds like our English word.
Metamorphosis, completely changed.
How do we become transformed
from the inside out?
How does that happen?
Well, part of the way that happens
is right here in the verse,
Look at how it continues.
Do not be conformed to the world.
Be transformed
by the renewal of your mind.
We have to renew our mind,
renew our thinking, develop new thinking.
That’s part of how we change.
That’s part of how we’re transformed.
Now, in order for our thinking
to be changed,
a couple of things need to happen.
And the first thing that needs to happen
is that you need to be convinced
that you need to change.
Have you ever tried to
convince someone they need to change
when they don’t think they do?
How does that go?
It’s called the toddler years, right?
Doesn’t go well.
No.
The first step is to be convinced
that maybe I do need to change.
And I’ve shared this story before,
but this happened recently
with a friend of mine.
He shared the story
where his wife came to him with a concern
and they got into an argument about it
and he ended up he said, John,
I remember where I was standing,
where I said
these words, I’m not proud of it,
but I can’t get it out of my head.
I said to her,
I’m not the problem in this relationship.
You are.
You’re the one who needs to change.
And even as he was saying
it, you just saw his shoulders
droop and his head hanging down.
So she actually calls his bluff.
She goes to counseling.
Okay. I’m the one who needs a change.
Let me go work on myself.
Goes to counseling.
Counselor recommends a book.
He, being a bit of a control
freak, says, Let me read it first
to make sure it’s okay for you to read.
And he’s reading the book.
And in the middle of the book
he goes, Oh no,
she’s not the problem.
I’m the problem.
It’s not her.
It’s me.
And in a moment, he went from,
I don’t want to hear anything
about changing to
I desperately have to change.
That’s the first step is to recognize
even the starting point is
maybe I should change now.
Once you’re there, what do you do?
Well, the second step is
you need new information.
You got to where you are with
the same old information.
And if you keep relying on that,
that’s not going to make a difference.
I think in addiction,
they use this phrase
if in addiction and recovery,
if nothing changes,
how many of you have heard this?
Can you complete it for me?
If nothing changes,
nothing changes.
Thanks, John,
for the brilliant flash of the obvious.
But you understand that
if I don’t change my friends,
my patterns, my behaviors, the places
I go, the things I do.
If none of that changes,
then your addiction
is not going to change.
Nothing’s going to change.
So how do we renew our mind
with new information?
This is what everything is driving to.
We got to get God’s word in our heart
more and more and more and more.
Let this be
whatever goals you’ve set for 2024,
let this be the highest goal
you have for 2024 to get God’s Word
deep in your heart,
deep in your mind, deep in your soul
in fact, the verse.
I love to quote.
Psalm 119:11.
It goes like this I have hidden,
or you could say stored up
God’s word in my heart
so that I might not sin against him.
It’s that activity,
that intentional activity of intake
in God’s Word, having it
slowly over time, renew your mind,
to change your mind,
to transform your mind.
We really try hard here
at Valley View
to make it easy
for you to be in God’s Word,
because honestly, it’s not always easy.
I mean, many of us struggle to get in
God’s word.
There’s so many other things
pulling for our attention.
So we try to do a lot of things
to make it easy.
One of the things we do,
and Andrew talked a lot about it
this week,
by the way,
Andrew did a great job
that last week was so grateful
for him stepping up and helping out.
But he talked a lot about our Bible
reading plan as a church.
We’ve got a new one this year.
We do a different one
now for the last three years.
And I want to talk
a little bit about that
because that’s on purpose.
So our first one we did, three years ago
now, was we read through the whole Bible
in a year,
many people have never read
through the whole Bible
that if you read through the whole Bible,
even though it feels like a lot,
and there’s times
where you’re getting lost in it
and you may have to skim
and you might skip a couple of days
because you got behind,
but you end up getting
the whole big picture of the Bible.
And when you understand
the whole big picture, that helps
make more sense
of all the individual parts as you go.
So we read the whole Bible,
but then, last year,
we just read the New Testament
because the New Testament
really shapes the basis of our day
to day faith,
the Old Testament is
the foundation for that,
but more day to day
in terms of how we live and act.
We’re going to go to the New Testament
more as Christians,
New Testament,
Psalms and Proverbs
to give some daily worship.
Well, this year,
and as you can see, we’re funneling down.
We start broadly
a little less last year
with the New Testament.
This year
we’re just going to focus
as a church
on the Acts and the Gospels, Psalms
and Proverbs,
and we’re just doing it five days a week.
And so that gives you more space to just
meditate, dwell, chew on
shorter passages, spend more time
just reading about Jesus,
all the different accounts of his life,
and we’ll repeat that cycle
every three years.
All Bible, New Testament, Acts, Gospels,
funneling down, more focus, more time
to meditate,
more time to dwell on a passage.
And you need both.
You need to understand the big picture,
but you need time just to soak in
a few verses, just to soak it up
to see
what God is saying to you in that moment.
And so we try to make that easy.
If you have your favorite Bible
reading plan that you’ve done
since 1984, that’s great.
Keep doing it.
That’s okay.
But if you don’t have one,
we’ve made it easy for you.
Those are out in the lobby.
And then also,
any time you want to find it,
it’s on our website.
We’ve been putting a ton of information
on our website over the last two years.
If you can throw up those images,
this is going to be kind of hard to see.
But there’s a tab at,
the top that says, Do you need help
going through that up?
Do you have a need?
And then if you scroll down under that
how to grow spiritually,
it’s a whole nother tab.
And under there
we have the Bible reading plan.
You can download that there
any time we have copies in the back,
but any time you want, you can go there.
Obviously you can’t read that,
but you see that’s where you find it.
That’s where it shows up.
It makes it easy to find.
Another thing we have under that tab,
how to grow spiritually,
is memorizing scripture.
So as a church, we memorize
Scripture together.
Every month
we have a new scripture memory verse.
And I bet if I went around
everyone in here,
each of us would say,
I really need to memorize more scripture
this year.
I need more of God’s Word memorized,
sown in my heart.
I think one of the challenges
we face is we all know we should.
But finding the time,
making it easy is hard.
And so with almost every single scripture
memory verse that we’ve done as a church,
we have a song attached to it.
We’ve made it super easy,
in fact, by just playing the songs,
play the songs for a few minutes
a day, by the end of the year,
you’ll have 12 new verses memorized
in a year.
And I think if we went around and asked
How many versus did I memorize last year,
it probably wouldn’t be 12.
For most of us,
12 may not sound like a lot, but look,
that’s a step forward of
just hiding some of God’s
word in our heart.
Those verses are going to come up
throughout what we do in the church.
I’m going to bring them up.
I bring them up in the mid-week update.
I talk about them there.
That’s another way for you
to just continue
to grow throughout the week.
Make sure you’re signed up
for the mid-week update.
You’ll see that scripture
memory verse there.
Here’s another
thing, though,
about learning scripture through song.
How many times
have you memorized a verse?
You’ve got it nailed,
and then someone asks you do it next week
and you have no idea what it is.
You know,
I remember in seminary
we had this class
where they were preparing you
for the oral exam,
which is high pressure.
They can ask you anything
for 30 minutes straight,
and it’s just rapid
fire questions about theology.
And to prepare for that,
they’re asking us rapid fire questions,
creating this real intense environment
and the guys asking questions.
Nobody can answer them.
We’re all just scared to our wits.
And finally he goes,
okay, who can quote John
3:16? And all of us are like, I don’t even
was that in the Bible?
You know, we’re all just frozen.
Can’t even remember
John 3:16 In that moment.
Look, that happens.
But when you memorize a song,
scripture put to song,
you’ll never forget it.
In fact, the worse
the song is, the better.
Right? The more likely
you are to remember it.
So we’ve tried to make it easy.
That’s on that same page.
I think you already showed the picture
of that.
We list all those out.
The picture he showed was from last
last year’s verses.
We’re slowly rebuilding that page
for the coming year,
memorize Scripture together,
get the mid-week update.
And then lastly, let me make a comment
about the sermons in terms
of how you can continue to be in
God’s word.
You know,
we’ve been working
through the Book of John
and we’ve been working through it
in small segments on purpose.
There’s a there’s a reason behind that.
That allows you,
when you go home
Sunday afternoon to just
throughout the week, continue
to read over that passage.
You might just pick one or two days
during the week.
Let’s say we just studied
John 18:1-11, 12- in that range.
If you read that passage
a couple of more times that week,
you’re going to see some more insights
you didn’t see.
You’re going to
absorb a little more from that
and that makes it easy for you
to just continue
to go deep in God’s word.
I think a number of us,
when by the time we get through
the Book of John,
you’re going to have learned a lot
about the Gospels, about Jesus’s life,
because you’ve meditated
more and you’ve spent more time in it.
All right.
Those are some of the practical things
we do as a church to try to help you
get into God’s word.
Now, I’m going to talk a little bit
about the science of building a habit
just for a moment.
There’s a great book.
I’d recommend that I’m pulling some of this
from called Atomic Habits.
Have any of you heard of that book?
It’s pretty popular right now.
This is written
by a guy named James Clear.
It’s not a Christian book.
It’s just on
how do you, anybody, build new habits?
Apart from many of the Christian books
I’ve read over the last five years,
that’s been probably one of the more
influential books in my life
and in the life of a lot of other people
I know.
I’ve probably read it four or five times,
been in different discussion groups.
And one of the things he talks about
is that when you want
to start a new habit,
so if you’ve not been regularly
in God’s Word,
if you want to build a new habit,
there’s a few key things you can do
to make it easy to start the habit.
Now the focus here is on
starting the habit,
that’s what you want to do,
you want to focus on
starting the habit. A lot of times
when I want to start a new habit,
I’m also focused on the end game.
Yeah, I’ve never read the Bible before.
I want to read the whole Bible
in the coming year.
That can be daunting.
That can be overwhelming.
Instead, let’s focus on
just getting the habit started.
So here’s some practical ways
to start a new habit.
Of course,
my hope is that you apply that
to reading God’s Word regularly.
But here’s the first one.
If you want to start a new habit, start
by attaching it to an existing habit
connected to something
you already do
regularly without even thinking. Like,
so for instance,
you might say,
When I turn on the coffee pot,
I’m going to read a verse of the Bible.
I might lay my Bible
reading plan
right there, right
next to the coffee pot,
might put my coffee mug right on
top of it or it on top of my coffee mug,
or when I brush my teeth
and I know you do, right?
I’m sure you do.
When I brush my teeth,
I’m going to read a verse of the Bible.
You attach it to something
that you already do without fail
and connected to it.
That makes it easier to get over
the emotional hurdle of starting a new habit.
So that’s one.
The second habit- way to start a new habit
to make it easy.
Look at this next one.
Flash the next one up on the screen.
Make it
super easy to begin with.
So don’t try to start a new habit,
and if you never work out,
I’m going to start into this
three hour a day workout
program tomorrow.
No, no.
Make it so easy to start with that
you can’t not do it.
So instead of
I never read the Bible,
let me read the whole Bible next week.
No, what can I do that
seems like I can’t not do it?
It’s so simple.
Can I read a chapter of the Bible?
I don’t know.
That seems like a lot
too. What
about half a chapter?
Maybe.
What about one verse?
Can you read one verse a day?
I can’t not do that.
That’s ten, 15 seconds. Of course.
Make it.
When you’re trying
to start a new habit,
make it so easy that you can’t not do it.
Because the goal is to start the habit.
Here’s an example of that.
I read the story
in that book of a guy
who needed to lose 100 lbs.
He had let himself go,
was in a bad state,
and he knew to do that.
Part of the
issue for me is I need to exercise,
I need to get into the gym.
So he he just made it his goal
here was his goal for one month.
My goal is just to arrive at the gym
every day.
And so he went to the gym
that first week.
He walked in, set
a timer on his watch for 5 minutes,
and when it went off, he left.
That whole first week, didn’t do a thing
sit there scrolling through his phone.
But I’m at the gym,
I’ve developed
that habit of being at the gym.
Second week, same thing,
five minute timer. Done. I’m out.
I put in my time here at the gym today.
The third week
he goes in, sets his timer,
and he goes, You know what?
I’m already here.
I might as well do something.
And he starts
doing a little bit exercise, starts
doing a little more.
Few people get to know
him, show him what to do,
and a year later, he had lost all 100 lbs.
Now, when he was trying to start
that habit,
it seems silly to say
I just went in there, sat down and left.
But the goal was to
develop the habit
of showing up to the gym regularly
and that’s what he was doing.
He made it easy to start with.
Of course
you don’t want to stay there
a year from now,
just showing up
for 5 minutes and leaving,
but you want to get that habit going.
That’s one of the methods of doing that.
Make it easy to begin with.
All right.
Now, the third way,
practical tip
for starting a new habit and again,
I hope we’re applying this
to the reading and study of God’s word.
And this applies
to a lot of different areas.
Determine your next physical action to take.
You can apply this
whether it’s a new habit
or just something hard
you need to tackle.
Don’t leave it this big, vague thing.
I need to be a better person.
Well, what does that mean?
What’s the next physical action
you need to take
if it’s my car isn’t running right?
I don’t say I need to get my car fixed.
First
If I’m new to the area
and don’t know where to go,
I need to find a mechanic.
Well, how do I do that?
Well, I need to call someone.
Well, who do I call?
Call Bill. Do you have his number?
No. Call Steve and get Bill’s number.
That’s my next physical action.
Call Bill.
Get Steve’s number
so I can either way,
so I can ask him for a recommendation.
What makes it even better is if you then
write it down and tell someone tomorrow
morning at 9 a.m.,
I’m going to call Steve
and ask him for Bill’s number.
Honey, did you hear that?
That’s what I’m going to do tomorrow
morning at 9 a.m..
I’m going to do it and you lock it in.
But you’ve made it one super
simple step clear
next physical action to take.
There’s a lot of power in that
in terms of getting a new habit started.
So reading God’s word, being in God’s
word, hearing God’s word,
that’s that first part of letter H
that we’re unpacking here
in terms of building new habits
for the coming year.
And if there’s one thing you do
this year,
get in God’s word,
let it transform your mind
so that in fact, it says in verse two,
you may discern what is the will of God.
If you want to know God’s will
for your life in 2024,
let His Word
transform and renew your mind.
So that’s the first half of letter H.
Now let’s look at the second half,
and this is in verse three
of Romans 12, verse three
For
by the grace given to me,
I say to every one among you
not to think of himself
more highly than he ought,
but to think with sober judgment, each
according to the measure of faith
that God has assigned.
So first half of letter H, hear
the Word of God.
Second half develop a heart of humility.
In 2024, one of the spiritual habits
we want to develop
is a heart of humility,
a heart of humility.
And how do we do that?
How do you develop a heart of humility?
That’s not always easy.
It says
here not to think of yourself more highly
than you ought,
but also don’t think of yourself
in contrast to that more lowly
than you ought.
The contrast to that is not to
then think you’re the worst.
If you thought you were the best
when you weren’t, we don’t …No
instead, what it says is
think with sober
judgment is the word that’s
used, sober judgment.
I love the use of that word.
In fact, my father in law,
he calls alcohol liquid courage.
You ever heard that? Meaning
for some
makes him think
maybe you could do a little better
than you really can?
You take on a little more
than you really should?
In fact,
you’ve probably seen those memes,
Hold my beer. Right?
That’s the famous last words
for someone who goes, Watch me do this.
Watch
me take this on.
Instead of overestimating,
think with
sober or sound judgment, clear
thinking,
thinking rightly about the moment.
That’s where humility starts.
I have to assess rightly where I am
with accurate thinking.
That’s hard to do.
I don’t know about you,
but I don’t always like to do that.
Sometimes
I’d rather just live in oblivion.
As a kid I loved, I loved,
I lived for the summer
as a little kid
when I could just kick off my shoes
and run all summer through the cold,
cool grass
and just run and play
and run and run and run.
And I thought,
because I love to run so much,
I thought I was fast.
That was a little too much laughter.
And so we did a track
meet here at church.
We used to have our royal ambassadors
for Christ
and they would do these track meets.
And the first one I go
to, I’m thinking, I’m going to
murder everyone here, destroy…
dead last by a long shot.
Not even close.
It must have been a fluke.
Must have been my shoes.
Next track meet, same thing.
That’s humbling- that hurts.
I had to deal with reality.
I thought I was fast.
I thought of myself more highly than I ought.
Now,
the contrast to that is not to
then think I’m the worst person on earth.
No, you’re just not as fast as you thought.
You got to deal with reality
to move towards humility.
Another challenge, though,
with developing a heart of humility,
coming back to that idea
of being formed by our age,
it is not a positive attribute
to be called a humble person
in our world in general.
I remember reading Winston Churchill
talk about a man in Parliament,
Winston Churchill, Prime
Minister of Great Britain,
during World War Two,
and he he described him this way.
He said he’s a humble man
with much to be humble about.
That wasn’t a compliment, right?
We don’t normally say,
he’s a very humble person.
You might.
But in our age
it’s all about self-promotion,
not humility.
You know, it used to be that the president,
presidential candidates,
wouldn’t actually go around
campaigning for themselves.
They would let other people do that.
It was considered inappropriate
for you to go around self-promoting.
That’s not the case anymore.
The game is all about whichever side
you pick, any politician at all,
part of the game.
Here’s how great I am.
Here’s why you should depend on me.
It’s a different age.
How do we move towards
a heart of humility?
How do we develop a heart
that honors Christ and all we do?
It says here,
don’t think of
yourself more highly than you ought,
but think with sober judgment each
according to the measure of faith
given to him.
How do we develop sober judgment?
How do you begin to think about yourself
rightly in the moment?
Going back to that book, Atomic Habits,
he uses this phrase
that we should over time develop
what are called identity based habits.
And this is a helpful phrase.
It takes a little bit
to get our mind around,
but identity based habits
versus activity based.
Let me explain a couple of things.
We’ve all done this.
You use statements about yourself
that talk about your very core identity,
even when you’re just only talking
about an activity.
Like, for instance, I’ll run into people.
And by the way, I’ve even done it
this morning of
forgetting someone’s name.
It happens.
But the more people you meet,
the more names you’ll forget.
But I’ll run into someone and
here’s the phrase. They’ll say,
I’m not good at names.
I’m not good at remembering names.
Who said that? Here. Come on.
We can own up to it. Right?
Many of us have said it at times.
Do you hear that? That’s.
That’s an identity statement.
That’s who I am.
I’m no good at names
versus you know what?
I just forgot this person’s
name in the moment.
You know,
I could have just said
I didn’t remember their name.
Now,
instead of making an identity statement
about who I am at at my core.
Now, that’s one example.
And when we come to develop
an identity based statement,
going back to the example of a guy
who just showed up at the gym every day,
here’s the phrase
he began to say about himself.
I’m the kind of person
who never misses a day at the gym.
That’s who I am.
That’s part of my core, my character.
And so when it comes to developing
a heart of humility,
we’ve got to be reshaping our identity,
the way we see ourselves,
with sober judgment,
not too highly than we ought,
but with sober judgment.
Here’s who I am
and let me give you an example of ways
I’ve done that in my own life.
There’s seasons
when I really struggled
with very negative self-talk.
My default tape
would be when I did something wrong.
What a moron you are.
What an idiot.
How stupid could you be?
Have you ever done
anything right in your life?
That’s the immediate
Thank you for no amens, by the way.
I appreciate that.
I’m sure if I ask for a show of hands,
I won’t.
There’s some of you who would go.
You know what? Yeah,
I’ve talked to myself that way too.
Do you talk to yourself
worse than your worst enemy would?
How dumb can you be?
Now we’ve got to reshape that
identity, that thinking
that is not true of you.
The response to that is to not go.
I’m perfect, all right?
I can never do anything wrong.
We don’t overreact
to that more highly than I ought,
I think, with sober, accurate judgment.
So instead of that, what an idiot.
What a moron.
You never do anything right.
Here’s where it goes.
Again, it’s not,
I’m perfect.
I never do anything wrong.
Here’s where it is.
It’s more along the lines of I’m
someone who continues to grow
and improve,
even in the midst of challenges,
depending on Christ through that.
You see the difference there?
It acknowledges that you make mistakes.
You don’t pretend that you mess up,
that you don’t, or whatever.
You know you’re not perfect.
But I am someone,
when challenges come,
I’m going to continue to grow.
I’m going to continue
to get better dependent on Christ
through that
and where that takes us
is that shapes your identity
and ultimately helps
you grow in a heart of humility.
All of this comes back
to the reality that for that to happen,
you’ve got to be in God’s Word.
That’s the only place
where you’re going to find
sound judgment, sober truth,
everlasting principles,
especially in our crazy, crazy world
where who knows what is right
or wrong, and it’s going to change
next week.
An absolute truth in our culture
today will be changed
the next week.
In fact, you will be vilified
for believing what you believed
last week,
a month ago, two months ago.
It’s like that.
I don’t know about you,
but I desperately
want an eternal truth to stand on
in the midst of that madness.
That’s why we get in God’s Word.
That’s what will change you.
The goal of developing these habits.
I’ve given you these tips and tricks.
The goal here is not just so that
you’ll know more of God’s Word
so that you can appear
as someone who knows God’s Word,
or that you can
appear as a humble person.
No, the goal of all of that is to know
Christ,
is to know Him personally,
is to know His love for you day
in and day out.
And he loves you so much.
And there’s so many days
where we don’t realize that.
He loves you.
He loves you
more than anyone else
has ever known or loved you.
He loves you no matter what you do,
He loves you.
We need to know his love.
That’s why we look to be in his word.
Develop a heart of humility.
So our memory verse
for January is Luke 16:10.
Luke 16:10: He
who is faithful
in little will also be faithful
in much.
You see the connection
between that verse
and our series on habits?
One who is faithful with little
will also be faithful with much.
Maybe I can’t change
my whole life in a moment,
but I can focus on this
one thing right now.
I had an uncle.
In fact,
he was my great, great, great uncle
Emory Reese,
you can show the picture of him
and his wife, Deborah.
They were missionaries
to Africa in western Kenya, 1900-1925.
They translated–
amazing couple– all
that they did in this area,
translated the New Testament into this
local tribal language,
brought the first printing press
to the area,
developed the language
learning curriculum
for the tribe in that area,
built the first brick factory.
They developed the finest
bricks in the area,
very active people serving.
And by the way,
this was a time
when when you went overseas for missions,
it’s a little bit cliche,
but people pack
their stuff in their coffin.
We’re not coming back.
They did come back.
But most people,
they buried two or three children
there. No guarantees
that you’d even make it
there.
And he’s there.
I’ve got a collection of letters
between him and family members back.
They were lived in Illinois.
He’s there struggling,
as you can imagine.
You’re going to have ups and downs.
And he writes his dad
asked him for advice, asked him for wisdom.
Am I making a difference?
Is this what God has me to do?
And he writes him this one simple line
that sums up Luke 16:10.
Here’s what he says to his son overseas.
Serving the Lord,
giving his life to missions.
Doesn’t know if we’ll ever see him again.
Here’s what he says.
Do the littles.
Do them well and watch them multiply
in your hands.
Habits.
Small change
producing big results over time.
Let’s pray.
